How to Beat Loneliness as a Stay-at-Home Mom

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The day in and day out routine of being a stay-at-home mom can make you feel lonely but it doesn't take much to beat those blues. Photo © Tetra Images / Jamie Grill / Getty Images

Surrounding yourself with a house full of people doesn't sound like something that would make you feel lonely. However, when those people are little kids and you're with them all day, every day, you can find yourself feeling lonelier than ever. Beat loneliness as a stay-at-home mom so you don't feel like the only person in the world.

Schedule a Date

If you stay at home all day, your only adult interaction can come late in the day when your spouse gets home.

By then you're ready to clock out for the day and he just wants to be alone because he's been around people all day at work.

That's why you two need to make a date. It's important to continue to make an effort to connect with your spouse. Not only is it good for your marriage, it helps you escape those feelings of loneliness.

Make Mom Friends

No one gets you like your mom friends. Good mom friends don't judge you and are there for you on the days you feel as if you'll never make it through the stay-at-home trenches.

Make a plan to get together with your mom friends regularly. It's good for you and it's good for them too. Plan a girls' night in or go out on the town with your girlfriends. Try to plan a moms' getaway weekend at least once a year for the ultimate refresher.

Spend Time with Yourself

How do you defeat loneliness by being alone? The loneliness of being a stay-at-home mom is often associated with being in the company of people who only speak three-word sentences all day.

You end up devoting your days to these tiny people and that means there's not much time for yourself.

But time for yourself is important and shouldn't be ignored. You need time alone now more than ever to do the things you did before you had kids. Read a book. Take a bubble bath. Tackle a new hobby any mom would love.

Watch your favorite TV show.

These activities may seem insignificant when you're wondering how you'll ever get through the next 18 years. But once you have time for yourself on your agenda, you'll not only look forward to savoring that time at the end of the day, you'll also enjoy the time you do have with your children so much more.

Take on a New Project

Being a stay-at-home mom can make you dread the daily routine. You get up, take care of children, eat and go to bed. Over and over and over again.

Take on a project that excites you. It can be as simple as reorganizing your family photos or as complex as building a playhouse in your backyard. Just keep in mind that you won't be able to finish these projects as quickly as you could before you had kids under your feet so you won't become discouraged and frustrated. Just work on your project several times a week and it will get done eventually. That's what matters. 

Earn Some Money

You're committed to staying home but that shouldn't prevent you from feeling like you can never leave the house or help bring in some additional income.

Get a part-time job or find a work-at-home opportunity that gives you a new outlet.

Don't overdo it, though. You want to find an opportunity that's flexible with your busy schedule without adding more stress to your hectic days.

Join a Group

From a playgroup to a special interest group, join groups that will keep your interest. Attend these group meetings on a regular basis and become an active member.

The involvement will help combat those lonely feelings because you'll be in the company of people who share a common interest. Can't find a group to join? Any mom can start one of these groups.