The 20th wedding anniversary marks a momentous milestone in a relationship, a time for giving an especially thoughtful gift.
We researched the best traditional and modern gift options for every recipient with different interests and hobbies. Our favorites include the delicious and editor-approved New England Breakfast Gift and the Society6 Pablo Neruda Love Poem Print for its romantic and meaningful message.
Here are the best 20th anniversary gifts.
Stonewall Kitchen New England Breakfast Gift
Start your special day together with a delicious beginning from Stonewall Kitchen’s New England Breakfast Gift Basket. Each basket contains all you need for the perfect breakfast, including the fixings for pancakes, waffles, cinnamon buns, and coffee.
All of the food is locally made and arrives in a beautiful Nantucket-style basket. No matter your breakfast favorites, your recipient will love trying out new ingredients and new recipes for many mornings to come. Be aware the products in this gift do contain milk and gluten, but luckily, Stonewall Kitchen has tons of food gifts if allergies are an issue.
A recent at-home test and highlighted this option as one of the best gift baskets available for purchase, thanks to the variation of products in the basket. Just be sure to check delivery times to ensure your recipient receives their gift right on the anniversary.
Society6 Pablo Neruda Love Poem Art Print
Mark the passing of your 20th year of love with a tasteful print of a poem written by the great romantic Chilean poet, Pablo Neruda. Originally written in Spanish, Neruda’s work uses elegance and simplicity to make an enduring impression. Present it in a frame, or go out and shop together for a new platinum one in honor of the occasion. This print is available in five sizes, each matte with a white border for framing.
Pottery Barn Aaron Probyn Bone China 16-Piece Dinnerware Set
Commemorate the 20th year with its traditional gift of china when you present your beloved with this pristine Bone China 16-Piece dinnerware set from Pottery Barn. Crafted in partnership with English designer Aaron Probyn, each set of this glazed, handmade china includes four each of dinner plates, salad plates, bowls, and mugs. This set is conveniently dishwasher and microwave safe.
W&P The Virtual Happy Hour Cocktail Kit
Mix up some classic cocktails together for a special night in with these old school cocktail tins from W&P. Choose your poison from the Moscow Mule, Margarita, or an Old-Fashioned, each featuring everything you need minus the booze. For a more complete set, throw in these "Cheers to the Years" customizable anniversary glasses from Uncommon Goods to go with the cocktail tins.
Anthropologie Luxe Dyed Faux Fur Throw
Snuggle up together for a movie or a glass of wine under this ultra-soft, oversized faux fur throw from Anthropologie. With dimensions of 70 x 50 inches, this cozy throw is perfect for couples and is available in six posh colors. The brand also has matching pillows, eye masks, and neck wraps too.
UrbanStems The Carolina Bouquet
Give the gift of flowers to your cherished one with this Carolina Bouquet from UrbanStems—one of our favorite online flower delivery services. It features the official flower of the 20th anniversary, the daylily, in a deep, rosy pink, as well as white roses, carnations, limonium, cocculus, and fragrant eucalyptus. You’ll need a vase (add one for $12 on UrbanStems), a little fresh water, and a cool area to keep them fresh-looking until gifting time.
Fable Home Serving Ceramics Set
Create your perfect bundle set of hand-formed porcelain serving ware from Fable in chic colors like midnight blue, dove gray, and blush pink. Choose from serving platters, serving bowls, and Fable's "Everything bowls," ideal for soup, salad, or pasta. Fable is dedicated to sustainability and has earned multiple certifications for environmental and fair trade standards.
Voice & Sound Song Sound Wave - 20th Wedding Anniversary Gift
This unique image of your lover’s favorite song shown in sound waves works great on the wall of nearly any room. It comes available framed or unframed, with additional customizations to choose on style (art, paper, or metal), and size (8 x 24 or 12 x 38).
Uncommon Goods Personalized Tree Wood Carving
Bring your tree-carved declaration of love inside the house with this personalized tree wood carving, crafted from resilient Baltic birch wood. Made in the USA, these carvings are available in standard sizes for either couples or families (family carvings use the family monogram) or large for couples or families. The date of your anniversary (or any other you prefer) will be carved underneath.
Jenny Tee Shop Personalized 20th Anniversary Couple T-Shirts
Dress up twinsie-style for the day in your matching "Just Married–20 Years Ago" T-shirts. These comfy combed cotton tees are unisex, handmade, and available in seven colors. Sizes come available in small to 3XL, and you can even add a touch of personalization for free (just note your desired message when you place your order).
Baobab Collection Les Exclusives Platinum Candle
A unique and stunning platinum candle from the Baobab Collection of Grasse, France, will light up your home in a whole new way. This hand-poured candle is molded into Polish glass and available in four sizes, with the medium variety (4.9 pounds with 4 Egyptian cotton wicks, burns for 150 hours) being well-stocked. The fragrance is described as, “elegant, fruity, and floral built on notes of amber and grapefruit.” Your purchase arrives with free shipping.
Artifact Uprising Hardcover Photo Book
Tell the story of your life together in pictures with this highly customizable hard cover photo book from Artifact Uprising. To create your unique book, you can choose from several sizes, layouts, book jacket styles and fabric colors. Made with the highest quality, thoughtfully sourced materials (like 100% recycled paper), this book can highlight anywhere from one vacation to two decades of memories or more.
Kassatex Peshtemal Turkish Hand Towels
Kick your towel game up a notch this anniversary with a new set of 100% cotton Peshtemal Turkish hand towels. They are elegantly simple, highly absorbent, remarkably lightweight and made in Turkey. (Consider giving these along with a set of eco-friendly dryer balls to keep fabrics fresh and soft, while cutting down on dryer time).
One Kings Lane Moroccan Whimsey Wallpaper
Surprise your honey by brightening up a room, or even just part of one, with this emerald green and white 20th anniversary-colored wallpaper. One-of-a-kind, made-to-order, and only available at One Kings Lane, this stylish wallpaper is made in the USA and printed on sustainable, scratch and tear-resistant paper. One full single roll covers 23.8 feet. Not sure if you'll love the look? Order a swatch first to check it out.
Uncommon Goods Intersection of Love Personalized Jigsaw Puzzle
Hold onto this gift for a rainy weekend: A personalized 'Intersection of Love' jigsaw puzzle shows the names of the anniversary couple as an intersection of streets set against a blue sky. Customize it not only with the couple’s last names, but also the year of the anniversary being celebrated, and your preferred amount of pieces. The personalized image will also be on the gift box.
What to Look for in an Anniversary Gift
China is the traditional gift for the 20th wedding anniversary, which is a metaphor for the delicacy, elegance, and beauty of your relationship. Aside from dinnerware, which is always lovely, there are countless other china-related gifts to choose from as well. Vases, attractive table toppers and other forms of home decor are all good examples of such gifts.
"The 20th anniversary is incredibly special as we know," says gift expert Elisabeth Jones-Hennessy, Founder & CEO of GiftMeChic. “Since the modern gift of this occasion is platinum, I'd probably go with a piece of jewelry or a beautiful frame with your photo as a couple (perhaps add a photoshoot experience to go along with it)," she says.
Interests and Hobbies
Jones-Hennessy advises to consider your partner's lifestyle, favorite activities, and fashion choices. "Once you’ve put some thought into this, take one of your answers and expand upon it," she says. "For example, does your partner obsess over horoscopes? If so, how about an astrology reading? If your partner does yoga, sign them up for a few classes at their favorite studio. Whatever you choose, if time, energy and thought are involved, your partner will appreciate the gift no matter what.”
What is the traditional theme for 20th anniversary gifts?
The tradition theme for 20th anniversary gifts is china. China represents elegance and beauty, as well as fragility that comes together to describe a now decades-long relationship sustained through care and patience. Presents around this theme can include traditional plates and dishes, mugs, cufflinks, or even unique china jewelry.
What is the modern 20th anniversary gift theme?
The modern theme for 20th anniversary gifts is platinum, representing strength and endurance, which is necessary in a 20-year relationship. Shiny jewelry, picture frames, fountain pens, and more all fit into this versatile theme.
What is the color and gemstone of 20th anniversaries?
In addition to a traditional and modern theme, every anniversary also has a corresponding color, flower, and stone. This could be another great place to draw gift inspiration from. The 20th anniversary matches with the color and gemstone emerald and the day lily as the flower. Opt for emerald jewelry or even a green card or fashion item. If your budget is a bit more tight, opt for a bouquet of lilies for something sentimental and thoughtful, while still staying in theme.
Why Trust The Spruce?
This gift story was written by KJ Callihan, who has created gift and shopping guides for several sites including AAA Northeast magazine, CNET, and Knoji. For this gift guide, she spent hours of research looking for the best traditional, modern, and out-of-theme gifts. Callihan consulted gift expert Elisabeth Jones-Hennessy, Founder & CEO of GiftMeChic, who runs her own luxury gifting business and has experience as a buyer for Bergdorf Goodman and Saks Fifth Avenue.