Four years and going strong! While the four-year anniversary doesn’t quite have the “ring” of the five-year, every year is an accomplishment as your marriage grows stronger, you love for each other grows deeper, and you start to partner together in new ways as homeowners, parents and more.
We’ve gathered up a range of thoughtful gifts — from serious to lighthearted, and luxurious to penny-wise — to celebrate your anniversary in a way that defines your relationship now. While some of the gift... ideas are traditional, others are meant to be treats and helpers on your path together. And remember: The best gifts are the ones that mean something to you and your partner, so choose the one that really speaks to you as a couple. Here the best 4th-anniversary gifts for your honey.
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Fruit and flowers are a traditional gift for the four-year anniversary, so why not give your spouse a plant that will bring you both joy for years to come? In case you haven’t heard of Meyer lemons, they’re a favorite for cooking and making beverages because of their slightly sweet citrusy taste. Because these trees are grown to work indoors or outdoors, you can choose the size that will work best for your home (up to two, three or four feet tall).
A touch of nature is nice for any home because... it can brighten up a space and bring in delicious scents in winter, or bring the outdoors in in summer. And this one will yield fruit that you can use for drinks like margaritas and lemonade for years to come. Because you know what they say: When life gives you lemons…
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A more modern four-year-anniversary gift tradition is to choose an appliance, and that makes sense: Maybe when you registered for gifts, you were afraid of asking for too much, or didn’t know what you would use, or had a vision for what kind of married people you’d be that may not have actually panned out. That’s fine, not all of us are meant to live on homemade veggie juice!
Now that you’ve really honed in on your tastes as a couple, register for something you’ll really use and enjoy, like a... wine fridge. This 54-bottle cooler can either be installed into a built-in space or work freestanding, so you can use it in the kitchen, basement or even a corner of the living room. It can be set to a range of temperatures to get the perfect chill for your favorite wine, and will automatically set to your last saved temperature should the power go out, and it’s virtually silent when it runs so it’s not adding noise pollution to your space.
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If you registered for a set of sheets when you were first married, chances are the years of weekly laundering — plus that one time or the other when a ballpoint pen or red sock got into the wash — have made those once-crisp linens dull or worn. No wonder that linen and silk are another traditional four-year anniversary gift! So splurge on an extra-luxurious set of sheets to update your bed.
This bundle of bedding includes a sheet set, duvet cover and extra pillowcases to fulfill your full suite... of bedding. It’s all made in extra-luxe 480 thread count cotton weave for a breathable, silky-soft feel. And the bedding is incredibly popular — it has more than 17,000 positive reviews — from buyers who love the silky, warm and comfortable feel.
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As you’re building a home together, what usually happens is that you focus on the basics — sofas, shelves, beds and towels — then lose momentum when it comes to choosing the decorative accessories that really make your house a home. So start to nest a little with cool but still sentimental art that can serve as a starting point for a life of collecting art together. This small-ish print (it’s 14” square) can work in just about any room, as a standalone piece or as part of a gallery wall with an... eclectic mix of artwork. It's the perfect gift for her, for a daily reminder of how much you love her.Continue to 5 of 9 below.
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Another appliance that might not have been on your radar when you registered: the Instant Pot. This programmable pressure cooker debuted in 2010, but has steadily gained a cult following in just the last few years as an appliance that can make just about any foods, from slow cooker favorites like chili and stews to popcorn, desserts and more. Fans of the appliance have developed a whole suite of their own recipes and cookbooks, but for a newly married couple–especially one that might be adding... to their family soon—it’s all about convenience and ease of preparation with this appliance that does everything a pressure cooker can do and more. This appliance has more than 24,000 positive reviews on Amazon and is a Wirecutter pick for the best pressure cooker.
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One of the easiest ways to keep a relationship fresh is to explore new things together, and cooking is a fun one to play with since you can do it together in the comfort of your own home, and then enjoy the delicious results (or have a new story of a cooking disaster to share!). This kit is clever: Your challenge is to roll the dice, each of which has a different food group or kind of ingredient on it (like cooking methods, grains, veggies, herbs and proteins), then try to concoct a dinner using... the ingredients you rolled. Being creative together and problem-solving to build a meal will surely bring you closer together, especially if you don’t take it to seriously — and solve the problem with a glass of wine in hand.
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The traditional colors for the four-year anniversary are blue and green, colors of loyalty and vitality that your marriage is earning as you move from being newlyweds to just plain married people. But instead of investing in the traditional blue topaz or zircon, stones that can seem quite fancy on a still-shoestring lifestyle, consider a unisex multi-strand bracelet made from hand-knotted nylon for a casual take on anniversary jewelry. The bracelet works just as well for men as for women and... stands up to water, sun, sports and more. In brilliant shades of aqua with metallic accents, it’s lighthearted but durable, much the way you want your relationship to be.
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Another twist on the tried and true blue and green anniversary “stones” is a set of agate coasters in deep jewel tones of sapphire and emerald. Much like a marriage partnership, the true beauty of these stones is found inside and created only over the course of many years — an analogy you can use as a jumping-off point for a thoughtful card to accompany them. The set includes four coasters, each between 3.5” and 4.5”, and each totally unique as the variations are naturally grown in the stone.... They are selected for their fine ocean shades and polished to a party-ready sheen. He can put them to use in his man cave or perhaps now he will actually use a coaster.Continue to 9 of 9 below.
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Last but not least, a humorous twist on a promise to love your spouse forever: Denture-shaped soap that says you’re in it for the long haul. This handmade soap comes as a set of two (top and bottom, of course!) and is available is three luscious scents, including cake batter and black raspberry vanilla (yum!). Your spouse will enjoy placing them in the soap dish in the powder room to get a good reaction from houseguests, or using them every morning in the shower to start the day with a smile on... their face. If humor is one of the things that keeps your relationship, er, fresh, this will certainly help!
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