Most couples don’t have a wedding registry built by the time they have their engagement party, but it's definitely nice to celebrate this relationship milestone with a thoughtful engagement gift. Kate Murtaugh, principal and creative director of Kate Murtaugh Events & Design, suggests getting an item that might be useful during the wedding planning process, or something fun and informal.
We researched the best engagement gifts that are personalized, but also assist the couple in their big wedding day. Our list includes a hometown puzzle from L.L. Bean, a custom wine bottle label, and more.
Here are the best engagement gifts for a couple.
L.L. Bean My Hometown Map Puzzle
Perfect for the couple that prefers staying in versus going out, this custom puzzle doubles as a date night activity and piece of wall art. The creators use coordinates to pinpoint the exact location and a United States Geological Survey-certified map to create the image that expands 7.5 miles east to west and 5 miles north to south of the specified spot.
Price at time of publish: $60
The Ivory Shoppe “Pairs Well with Wedding Planning” Wine Label
This easy-to-apply wine label is a great way to add personality to a bottle of wine, which is a great engagement gift if you don’t know the couple well or are trying to keep costs low. Of course, if you want to take the gift up a notch, you could pair your DIY-labeled bottle with a wine subscription (because there will be a lot of stressful moments during the wedding planning process).
Price at time of publish: $6
Your Perfect Day Wedding Planner & Organizer
The 132-page book has an 18-month countdown calendar to help couples keep track of appointments, fittings, payment due dates, and more. The book also comes with a 12-month checklist to ensure nothing is forgotten in the process and plastic folders to store any inspiration. Couples can also take advantage of the planning tips and budgeting advice included within the pages.
Price at time of publish: $34
Love G Design "The One" Denim Jacket
If you’re buying for a fashion-forward couple, Johnson highly recommends these matching embroidered jackets, which she says “make for a cute photo op on the couple’s wedding day or engagement photo sessions."
The designer uses denim jackets reconstructed from vintage or second-hand jackets to give each piece a unique, distressed look. From there, they use a nontoxic fabric toner to add customized details.
Sev's Illustrations Couple Portrait
Take a photo gift to the next level by commissioning a custom illustration of the future married pair. All you have to do is send a photo of the couple—perhaps one from their early days together or the day they got engaged—to the artist, Séverine, who creates the illustration by hand before sending you the final PDF. One thing to note: Séverine charges by the number of people in the photo.
InkMeThis Self Inking Address Stamp
The couple will be thanking you profusely for this gift when it’s time to send all their wedding-related mail. The pre-inked stamp goes on clean and lasts for 20,000 impressions, so you know it’ll survive all the couple’s save-the-dates, wedding invitations, and thank you notes.
Previous customers praise the quick turnaround, flawless finish, and community with the designer, who will allow you to proof the stamp beforehand for typos or font changes.
Price at time of publish: $39 return address stamp
The Holiday Aisle Engaged Lovebirds Design Bark Ball Ornament
A custom creation they’ll display for many Christmases to come and handmade in the United States with re-engineered wood, the simplicity of the ornament works with any couple’s holiday theme. And because it isn’t tied to the holidays (no red-and-green color scheme or snowflakes in sight), they can display the ornament year-round.
Price at time of publish: $19
Uncommon Goods Romantic Date Night Painting Class
Gift with a break from wedding planning with a romantic date night that can happen from their own home. This virtual paint night allows couples to channel their artistic side, no matter their skill level. Couples are sent a kit before the session, which includes two canvases, six brushes, 24 acrylic paints, and a tip sheet. Then the night of their date, they’ll join a Zoom where art teacher Jennifer Funnell will guide them through the painting process.
Price at time of publish: $75
Sparkle Essentials Gentle Jewelry Cleaner Solution Kit
There will be a lot of occasions where the bride-to-be’s ring is the center of attention, and paying to get it clean each time will add up. Help her cut costs with this easy-to-use jewelry cleaning kit.
The solution provided is gentle enough to use on most jewelry but tough enough to remove the grime that can build up over time. The cleaning solution is paired with a bristle brush for extra thorough cleaning and a soft polishing cloth for buffering. Her ring will be shining bright within minutes.
Price at time of publish: $30
Bed Bath &. Beyond Mr. and Mrs. Kitchen Towels
If the couple loves to cook, these towels are a simple but sweet gift that add a bit of humor (and maybe truth) to their kitchen. Made of cotton, these towels are soft and super absorbent, making cleanup a breeze. And with one towel available in black, couples can soak up stain-causing foods without worry.
Price at time of publish: $15
Homesick Let's Toast Candle
Champagne is a classic engagement gift that disappears once the cork is popped. But this champagne-scented candle from Homesick keeps the celebration going. With notes of citrus, pineapple, apple, and, of course, champagne grapes, reviewers say the candle “smells amazing” but isn’t too overpowering. For a sentimental touch, customize the candle with a handwritten note affixed to the glass jar.
Price at time of publish: $38
Sweeter Cards “Congrats Lovebirds” Chocolate and Card
Perfect for a recently engaged colleague, this congratulatory card is super sweet—literally. Each card comes with a handmade, Fair Trade Certified chocolate bar filled with a soft caramel center topped with a sprinkling of Mediterranean sea salt. And if reading about this is making your mouth water, there are plenty of non-occasion bars you can grab for yourself.
Price at time of publish: $10
Duet Dance Studio Virtual Dance Lessons
The first dance is a wedding tradition that every couple wants to ace (or, at the very least, get through without tripping.) So help them shine on their special day by gifting them a virtual dance lesson from Duet Dance Studio. Taught by professionals, the 45-minute dance lesson can be customized to fit the couple’s goals, whether that’s learning the basics or trying out more intricate moves. From there, the couple can book future lessons or buy packages based on their dance desires.
Price at time of publish: $95 for intro session
Uncommon Goods Personalized Wedding Keepsake Library
Every couple wants keepsakes from their special day, but far too often, memorabilia ends up in a box in the basement. This personalized keepsake box allows them to store and display their wedding day tokens in a special way.
The cloth-covered box features acid-free drawers, fabric bags, and envelopes that will keep items in pristine condition for years to come, as well as sticker labels to help things stay organized. Each box is finished with a hand-painted personalization, like first names, shared last name, or the wedding date.
Price at time of publish: $147
Morning Joy Co. Monogram Last Name Cutting Board
Crafted from maple, cherry, or walnut, each board is pre-treated with food-safe cutting board oil to ensure the quality remains even after hours of slicing and dicing. However, the seller suggests using the non-engraved side for all prepping to keep it in pristine condition. If you are buying this gift for a more culinary couple, you may want to consider the shop’s recipe cutting board. Made of the same high-quality material, this board can feature the couple’s favorite recipe engraved on it.
Price at time of publish: $49 in cherry
Minted Heart Snapshot Mix Hues Photo Art
Perfect for the photogenic couple that’s been together for years, this piece of art is a great documentation of their love story. Featuring 30 photos selected and placed by you, this heart-shaped masterpiece not only makes for great home decor but can be displayed at all wedding-related events. Opt for the unframed versions or splurge and add a frame.
Price at time of publish: $284
The Bouqs Co. Glowing Bouquet
If you want to celebrate a couple who lives further away, you can’t go wrong with a beautiful bouquet. Though there are hundreds of arrangements to choose from, it always helps to consider the meaning of flowers when making your choice. This particular bouquet features roses, which symbolize love, and lilies, which signify purity of heart. But the centerpiece of this arrangement is the white hydrangea, which is simply a stunning flower that will brighten the day of its recipient.
Price at time of publish: $64
Kate Spade Bridal Party "Miss" to "Mrs." Ring Dish
Though the bride-to-be may be adamant about wearing her engagement ring at all times, there are bound to be occasions where she takes it off. And when that happens, she needs somewhere safe to place it. Made of porcelain, this ring dish features gold details that make it a sophisticated, stylish addition to any room.
Price at time of publish: $31
MasterClass Annual Membership
With a MasterClass subscription, the couple can choose from an array of lessons that suit an existing passion or allow them to try something new. Not to mention it will help them keep things fresh when the big day has passed and the inevitable post-wedding blues set it. Because this is a pricier purchase, it's best for couples you're particularly close with and know will utilize it.
Price at time of publish: $15 per month
Mouth Just Add Champagne Cocktail Kit
Don’t get us wrong: champagne is great on its own. But it never hurts to switch things up, especially because the couple is bound to get multiple bottles of bubbly. This cocktail-making kit comes with an array of syrups and garnishes that allow the couple to make an array of cocktails, from Bellinis and Royals to Raspberry Mules.
Price at time of publish: $92
What to Look for in an Engagement Gift
When looking for a thoughtful but useful engagement gift, Murtaugh says it helps to think about the couple’s wedding planning journey and what may be helpful as they embark on this exciting process. Some of her favorite items include a ring cleaner and box, a wedding planner, and little accessories for the day of, like champagne flutes or a cake cutter.
Adding a personal touch can turn the most traditional gift into something special. And the customization doesn’t have to be limited to names and initials: “Some of my favorite ideas include a personalized cutting board with the couple’s engagement date or a custom portrait from the day of their engagement,” says Etsy trend expert Dayna Isom Johnson.
If you plan on personalizing your gift with names or dates, make sure to do your research first. For example, is the bride changing her name? Make sure to double-check the details of the wedding beforehand too.
Hobbies and Interests
If you’re purchasing an engagement gift for the couple, Johnson says you should consider their interests and hobbies. This way, you gift something that speaks to their relationship and something they can enjoy together. Items like games, sports gear, travel accessories, or cookware can provide years of fun for the couple, but Johnson is a big fan of gifting experiences. “What better way to celebrate their love than with an activity they can enjoy together?" she says.
How much should you spend on an engagement gift?
“The amount spent on an engagement gift varies based on your relationship with the couple,” Murtaugh tells The Spruce. “The closer to the couple, the more you would typically spend on the present.” Johnson agrees, adding that how much you choose to spend is totally up to your preference and budget.
Do you need to buy an engagement gift if the couple isn't having an engagement party?
“An engagement gift is certainly appreciated but not mandatory and, in most situations, not expected or necessary,” Murtaugh says. Of course, as Johnson points out, “if you want to give the couple a special something to commemorate this big moment, definitely feel free to do so.” It can be as simple as sending a card in the mail or a more elaborate gesture.
What are some affordable engagement gifts for a friend?
You can give something special without spending a ton of money. For Murtaugh, a bottle of Champagne or Prosecco is a great, affordable gift that emphasizes the celebratory aspect of getting engaged. Another item that’s easy on the wallet: a small, customized gift the couple can use in their home.
Why Trust The Spruce?
Leah Rocketto has years of covering home content for various publications and sites. She also consulted Dayna Isom Johnson and Kate Murtaugh for their expertise on gift etiquette. Johnson is Etsy’s trend expert who has made a career out of knowing what will withstand the test of time and truly tug at the heartstrings. Murtaugh, principal and creative director of Kate Murtaugh Events & Design, has spent the last decade helping couples around New England plan every moment of their love story. In doing so, she has become an expert on all wedding-related etiquette, including the gift-giving process.