The bedroom is where you go to relax, recover, and recharge at the end of a busy day. But if you want your bedroom to be a little more, don't forget the most important R-word: romance. By adding the right personal touches and avoiding some common no-nos, anyone can have a sexy bedroom—a space that is both romantic and relaxing.
Start With the Sheets
Some of the most important elements of a sexy bedroom include soft sheets, dimmable lighting, candles, soft area rugs, and silk window panels. Out of these, the most important feature is the soft sheets. Once you get into bed, the room fades away, so soft sheets are a must. Soft sheets have a high thread count and feel good against the skin. For some people that means silk; for other people, it's sateen; and for others, nothing's comfier (or sexier) than the swanky feel of Egyptian cotton.
Never ignore the use of texture in a bedroom. There are many ways to introduce texture (other than soft bed sheets). Throws in cashmere, window treatments of silk, and soft chairs covered in velvets can all be layered together to create and reinforce an amazingly luxurious feeling. And don't forget about wall texture. A little depth here, whether tactile or visual, can add an alluring richness that surrounds you. In a bedroom, getting the textures right is even more important than the colors. Touch is a sense that overrides just about all of the others, and a soft feel is the touch you are after in a romantic bedroom.
Go for a Layered Look
A layered look is great when you want to feel at home and comfortable in your space; it helps avoid the sense that you bought everything from the same store. Buy a few key pieces that will be classic and last a long time. These should be your larger ticket items. The bedding and window treatments should be luxurious but comfortable, and they offer great opportunities to add color and texture. Never forget to add yourself to the mix: Personal items can make the room a reflection of who you are.
Romance With Rugs
Rugs are just as important as the bedding in a bedroom. Go for silk if it's in the budget. But if the price tag is too high, opt for viscose (the poor man's silk); it feels just like the real thing. Make sure you can step onto the rug as soon as you get out of bed. In a bedroom, it isn't just how a thing looks but also how it feels.
Play With Lighting
For the sexiest illumination, you need layers of lighting with adjustable dimmers. You need to be able to lower the lights to a glow when needed. Having multiple fixtures of different types allows you to change it up. Lamps on nightstands are for reading—when those go off, a floor lamp or sconces across the room can add just the right light for romance. And it never hurts to add a little bling with elegant fixtures, such as crystals to make a room sparkle.
Color It Sexy
Colors can certainly be seductive but aim for romantic, not high energy. Where you might think deep reds are passionate, most people enjoy them only for a few minutes, until you need to go to sleep. Instead, opt for softer, more restful colors, such as rosy taupes, soft grays, and dreamy blues. Watery tones are especially good for romantic bedrooms, so consider shades of blue, seafoam, and violet used together.
Consider All the Senses
Most people pay considerable attention to the visuals when creating a sexy bedroom, but often forget that sexiness involves all the senses. Scented candles, incense, and fresh flowers can all stimulate romantic feelings. And focus on the natural scents provided by essential oils such as musk, sandalwood, and lavender, while avoiding synthetic perfumes and scents.
Making a bedroom sound sexy doesn't mean piping in a Barry White soundtrack, although quiet background music of Debussy couldn't hurt. But as feng shui experts know, some gentle sounds of running water provided by a small dresser-top fountain or even a small aquarium can be remarkably relaxing and seductive. Rather than a traditional chiming alarm clock or clock radio, nudge you and your partner awake in the morning with a zen clock.
Even taste can be a part of a sexy bedroom. A small decorative dish of fine dark chocolates on the night table can be a decided help to a romantic bedroom atmosphere.
Unclutter the Bedroom
When romance is the goal, put away the family photos of relatives and kids, and replace them with artwork featuring water scenes, nighttime landscapes, or flowers. A bedroom that conveys a feeling of spaciousness, without too many small accent pieces cluttering dressers and night tables, is much more conducive to romance.
Uncluttering can be partly a matter of furniture arrangement. If possible, position the bed deep within the room, away from doorways and windows, with other furniture pieces kept sparse and elegant. And as feng shui experts know, the bed should be kept well away from the bathroom door.
Don't Sweat a Small Budget
When cost is a concern and you have to choose among all of the above, put your emphasis on the bedding, candles, light dimmers, and wall colors. All of these purchased together will cost you less than $200, and they can turn a boring bedroom into a special place to enjoy with your partner.