To fulfill the wedding tradition of "something borrowed" you could ask for a loan of any old item. But historically, a bride was supposed to figuratively "borrow" the happiness of a bride who'd had a long and successful marriage by literally borrowing something for the wedding. So to make this tradition the most meaningful, think about who you know who truly has an inspiring marriage. When you ask for the loan, make sure you share why you've chosen that person, and what their marriage means to you.
Creative Ideas for the "Something Borrowed" Tradition
- Your mother's or grandmother's veil or wedding dress. Yes, this is an obvious choice, but a pretty good one. If your parents or grandparents are still happily married, pay them homage by wearing what they wore. You can update the lines with tailoring, or wear it as is for a vintage look.
- Double the luck by wearing the "lucky penny" or sixpence that another bride wore in her shoe on her wedding day. Many brides choose to securely tape the penny to the bottom of their soles for comfort purposes, but make sure it is secure so that you can give your borrowed item back!
- If there are many grandchildren in the family, consider dividing grandma's wedding dress. Each grandchild can "borrow" some of the lace or beading and subtly incorporate it into their bridal attire. If the details don't work on your dress, they can be pinned into your hair or bouquet, or even worn in a hidden location.
- If you've borrowed a wedding reading or part of a wedding vow from a friend or family member's wedding, make it into something you wear. Take your favorite line and embroider it onto a handkerchief or into the lining of your dress. This is especially sweet if the ready truly speaks to why their marriage inspires you.
- There's no reason that something borrowed has to come from a woman. If your dad had a happy marriage, borrow his handkerchief, incorporate a cufflink into your bouquet or pin a tie tack into your hair. You could also use his wedding tie or a favorite pocket square to wrap your bouquet. If he was a tuxedo wearer, his pearl stud set could become beautiful buttons on your dress. And of course, if you're a bride wearing a suit or menswear, the possibilities of borrowing something from your dad or grandfather are truly vast.
- If you're getting married in the winter, your grandmother might have a beautiful stole that will add vintage chic. Some brides even choose to wear a fur muff rather than to carry a bouquet. And if fur isn't your thing, consider your grandmother's shawl, wool coat, or other ways to keep warm in your winter wedding dress. You can say that you are wrapping yourself in the warmth of your grandmother's happy wedding.
- Honor the generations by having your something old from your great-grandmother, your something blue from your grandmother, and your something borrowed from your mom. This is an especially nice way to acknowledge a deceased parent or grandparent in your wedding.
Whatever you borrow, make sure it is full of happy memories. Think about the person who loaned it to you when you put it on, and consider what about their relationship is particularly meaningful to you. With that sentiment behind you, you're sure to have luck on your wedding day.