Etiquette Tips for Men in a Modern World

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News flash: It's not old fashioned for men to have good manners. In fact, it's more important now than ever for a man to pay attention to the basics of proper etiquette with all the competition for good jobs and invitations to the best parties.

Some people seem to think that being strong means exhibiting rude behavior and bulldozing others. It doesn't.

Reality TV

Contrary to the behavior of many people on today’s reality TV shows, proper etiquette is not out of style. The act of following the basic rules of good manners shows respect for other people and sends the message that you want the same respect in return. 

Practice Your Manners

You don’t have to exaggerate proper etiquette. It should come naturally. That means that you should read the rules and practice until you can follow them without even having to think about it. It's like riding a bike. The more you do it the better you get. Really.

Old School Manners

Remember that proper etiquette applies to all people, including men, women, and children. However, there are certain things that started long before you were born that may not make sense to you. Even some of the rules that may not apply now can still be followed. You’ll certainly impress the older generation, and a nod from Grandma might be just the thing to turn that special girl’s head.

Manners at First Glance

As the old saying, “You only have one chance to make a first impression," goes, make sure it counts in your favor. People tend to hang on to their original image of who you are for a very long time.

Even if you manage to sway them later, you can pretty much count on their remembering you as you were at the first meeting. These guidelines are good to follow in the beginning, whether you are at a party or interviewing for a new job.

Here are tips for men on meeting people for the first time:

Everyday Good Manners

Not only do you need to practice proper etiquette when you first meet someone, but you also need to maintain it all the time. It’s not as difficult as it may sound. All you have to do is practice so good manners will become a habit.

It’s all about showing consideration for others. Some specific examples include putting down the toilet seat when you finish your business, say “please” and “thank you,” and respect people’s personal space.

Extra tips for daily manners:

Manners While Out and About

Going out is much more fun when everyone behaves. You might get a few laughs for acting like a clown, but people probably won't take you seriously when you want them to. Knowing the social graces will give you an edge and attract more people than if you come across as a boor. Once again, the act of practicing good manners is mostly about treating people the way they should be treated.