News flash: It's not old fashioned for men to have good manners. In fact, it's more important now than ever for a man to pay attention to the basics of proper etiquette with all the competition for good jobs and invitations to the best parties.
Contrary to the behavior of many people on today’s reality TV shows, proper etiquette is not out of style.
The act of following the basic rules of good manners shows respect for other people and sends the message that you want the same respect in return.
Practice Your Manners
You don’t have to exaggerate proper etiquette. It should come natural. That means that you should read the rules and practice until you can follow them without even having to think about it. It's like riding a bike. The more you do it the better you get. Really.
Old School Manners
Remember that proper etiquette applies to all people, including men, women, and children. However, there are certain things that started long before you were born that may not make sense to you. Even some of the rules that may not apply now can still be followed. You’ll certainly impress the older generation, and a nod from Grandma might be just the thing to turn that special girl’s head.
Manners at First Glance
As the old saying, “You only have one chance to make a first impression," goes, make sure it counts in your favor.
People tend to hang on to their original image of who you are for a very long time.
Even if you manage to sway them later, you can pretty much count on their remembering you as you were at the first meeting. These guidelines are good to follow in the beginning, whether you are at a party or interviewing for a new job.
Here are tips for men on meeting people for the first time:
- Manners for Men – Meeting New People: Simple etiquette tips for all occasions.
- How to Start a Conversation: You don’t have to be tongue-tied when you meet someone new.
- Handshake Etiquette Tips: Learning how to shake hands will be valuable throughout life.
- Job Interview Etiquette: Set yourself apart from the candidate pool in a good way by showing that you know how to act.
Everyday Good Manners
Not only do you need to practice proper etiquette when you first meet someone, you need to maintain it all the time. It’s not as difficult as it may sound. All you have to do is practice so good manners will become a habit.
It’s all about showing consideration for others. Some specific examples include putting down the toilet seat when you finish your business, say “please” and “thank you,” and respect people’s personal space.
Extra tips for daily manners:
- Manners for Men – Grooming: Brush your teeth, take a shower, comb your hair, and trim your nails for a good start on good grooming.
- Etiquette Tips for Awkward Situations: Don’t make a bad situation worse just because you don’t know how to handle it.
- Manners for Men – Gentlemanly Language: In other words, refrain from using four-letter words around your boss, your clients, and the parents of a girl you want to impress.
- Etiquette in the Office Cubicle: Acknowledge and respect others around you at work. Don't make too much noise, avoid showing your bad habits, and don't stink up the place.
- How to Answer Rude Questions: Even if you know proper etiquette, you can count on someone else to be rude occasionally. Be prepared with good (polite) answers and then change the subject.
Manners While Out and About
Going out is much more fun when everyone behaves. You might get a few laughs for acting like a clown, but people probably won't take you seriously when you want them to. Knowing the social graces will give you an edge and attract more people than if you come across as a boor. Once again, the act of practicing good manners is mostly about treating people the way they should be treated.
Guidelines for manners while on the go:
- Manners for Men – In Restaurants: Learn some simple rules to put your best foot forward while dining out.
- Manners for Men - Wearing and Removing Hats: Gentlemen know when to remove their hats.
- Table Manners and Dining Etiquette: There’s more to table manners than keeping your elbows off the table.
- Manners for Men – Holding Chairs for Women: An old fashioned rule that may or may not be necessary.
- Avoid Common Blunders in Restaurants: Mistakes happen. Deal with them.
- Manners for Men – Holding Doors for Women: If you’re holding the door, she can’t slam it in your face.
- Proper Etiquette for Handling Mealtime Mishaps: Don’t let a drop or spill ruin your dinner.
- Cell Phone Etiquette: Don't give your phone more attention than the person you are with.