In feng shui, your bedroom is one of the most important parts of your home to pay attention to. It’s the closest to you energetically, and you spend a lot of time there. Even though you are probably out of your bedroom for much of the day, a big percentage of your days (hopefully!) are also spent sleeping in your bedroom. It’s also the most private part of your home, and the space you can really call your own. Even if you share your bedroom with a partner, it still represents you.
The bedroom is a great place to start applying feng shui, whether you’re a newbie or an expert. Many feng shui practitioners even make adjustments for themselves in their bedrooms, because it’s a very powerful place to make shifts.
If you do any feng shui in your home, you should definitely be sure to correct the most common feng shui issues in your bedroom. Here are some of the things we most often see, and some simple ways to work with them.
One very important foundational concept in feng shui is called the commanding position. If you aren’t able to see your bedroom door while lying in bed, this means that your bed is not in the commanding position, and it means you’re not able to see who might be coming in. This can be disruptive, because when you are sleeping you’re in a more vulnerable state where you may not be able to protect yourself. Not being able to see the door from your bed can make you feel like you’re in danger, even if only on a subconscious level.
If your bed is not in command, the best thing to do is move it. Generally, a bed in the commanding position will be located diagonally from the door. If you aren’t able to move your bed, you can also place a mirror in your bedroom that allows you to see a reflection of the door instead of the door itself. However, it’s always best to actually move the bed if your space allows it.
Related to the commanding position, we often see beds that are directly in line with the door, with the foot of the bed pointing towards the door. If you are able to move the bed to a different position, we encourage you to do that. However, this is sometimes the only option, especially if you have a smaller bedroom. If this is the case, you can hang a feng shui crystal ball halfway between the bed and the door so that you’re protected from any rushing qi that comes in through the bedroom door.
Sloped Ceiling Over the Bed
A sloped ceiling over the bed can be an issue because it puts pressure on you while you’re sleeping. This is more of a concern if the low part of the ceiling is under about eight feet, and even more so if you can’t stand up comfortably. If the low part of the ceiling is fairly close to you while you’re in bed, it can cause a lot of pressure on the part of your body that is directly below it. Ideally, it’s best to move your bed so that it’s not under the sloped ceiling. If you can’t move your bed, you can make sure the ceiling is painted to match the walls so that it feels higher, or place up lighting on the ceiling. This will help to brighten the area and bring light to the ceiling to lift the energy.
Beam Over the Bed
Similar to a sloped ceiling, a beam above the bed can create pressure on the body part located below the beam. It can also contribute to separation between partners if the beam runs right between where the two partners are sleeping. Again, the best solution is to move your bed if you can. If that’s not possible, you can drape an attractive fabric over the beam to conceal it. Ideally, the beam should also be painted to match the ceiling so that it doesn’t feel as contrasting or as oppressive. If the beam is quite high, it might not need to be adjusted, but it’s a good idea to make these changes if the beam is lower and closer to you.
Bed Next to the Wall
If the left or right side of the bed is pushed all the way up against a wall, this can create limitations with your yin and yang energy, or your masculine and feminine sides. It can also create limitations in finding a partner, because nobody wants to sleep on the side of the bed that’s up against the wall. Ideally, you want just the headboard to be against the wall, and you want to have space on either side. If you don’t have a lot of room, just create as much space as you can on each side of the bed, even if it’s only a few inches on one side. You can also get a full-sized bed instead of a queen, if that will fit better into the room.
If at all possible, it’s best to have a headboard that’s fastened securely to the bed. You’ll also want to choose a headboard that is solid, without holes or bars. This provides stability for the people in the bed, as well as support for your relationship.
Mirror Facing the Bed
Not all schools of feng shui feel that a mirror facing a bed is a problem, but if you feel uncomfortable with this situation, simply remove the mirror. If you do feel that a mirror facing the bed is bothering you and it’s not possible to move it (for example, if it’s attached to a closet door), you can get a frosted removable film to obscure the reflection.