12 Feng Shui Bedroom Steps To Self Love

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    Good feng shui in your bedroom is very important for your well-being, this is why we have numerous tips, feng shui cures and solutions for your bedroom! From the best positioning of your bed to enhancing your love life with good feng shui colors, scents, images and more.

    However, it is important to notice that way too often we focus on finding love externally and decorate our bedroom for quick feng shui fixes and solutions for our present love relationships (or to attract that special someone).

    While these are all good and wise steps, do not forget that your bedroom has to have (and nourish and strengthen) the energy of self-love first. Because obviously, if you do not feel loved and cherished in your own bedroom - with or without a partner - you will keep seeking this source outside yourself. It can be a very tiring journey!

    So, let us help you create a good feng shui bedroom with a powerful energy of self-love. In addition to being soaked in the powerful and nourishing energy of love (which we all dearly need), the bonus is that you are bound to attract more love into your life.

    Here are the 12 steps to creating the energy of self-love in your bedroom.

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    1. Evoke the Feeling of Being Loved

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    The first step is very personal and has little to do with feng shui, per se, and everything to do with you. What makes you feel loved? What images, colours or experiences? Do you feel loved when you see a blossoming image of nature? A couple laughing? Will the innocence of a pure and crisp white color space make you feel loved and nourished? Or maybe you need warm, fiery colors to evoke the feeling of love? 

    This is the first step and for many people it can be the hardest one because we rarely ask ourselves this question, let alone try to create it in our surroundings. But this is all about to change now! Take as much or as little time as you need here, and know that this is a journey; you will keep discovering fascinating things about yourself and your ability to love.

    Just be clear with your intent of understanding (and evoking) the energy of love, and you will sure receive many insights. Do not wait for one big discovery before you start re-creating your bedroom, welcome all little insights and ideas into your space.

    Ok, now let's look into more specific feng shui steps to create the energy of self-love.

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    2. Light and Lighting

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    The quality of light in your bedroom - and in your whole home, for that matter - is incredibly important for your well-being. Emotional, mental as well as physical health and well-being. Pay attention to the quality of light in your bedroom and see how your body responds. Do you feel depressed after you spend some time there or do you feel nourished?

    Know that light is considered energy nourishment for your body and start paying attention to its presence. Good, intelligent lighting can create a variety of emotions if you know how to use it - from feeling aroused to feeling calm and relaxed. Ideally, you will have several choices of lighting in your bedroom and use them wisely.

    Some simple rules to follow are to never use an overhead lighting fixture - unless this is a beautiful crystal chandelier that can create a very special quality of energy. (Be sure not to have the chandelier directly above the bed, as this is bad feng shui).

    Make a point of letting natural light into your bedroom during the day, even when there is no direct sunlight. Natural light energizes and clears the energy, so it is as important as ur next step, the quality of air.

    Before we proceed, though, here are a couple more feng shui ideas for you to explore:

    • Natural candles are the best lighting for the bedroom, they purify the energy as well as bring warmth and sensual energy to it.
    • The Himalayan salt lamps bring very good energy into the bedroom, too, and you can find them in a variety of designs - from clean and modern to bohemian styles.
    • If you like to read in bed, choose light fixtures with a movable neck and a focused pool of light instead of diffused light.
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    3. Fresh Air

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    The quality of air might as well be the number one step in a good feng shui bedroom because obviously the air we breathe is very important for our well-being. This is especially important in the bedroom as the air quickly gets stale given the presence of many bedding fabrics, carpets, rugs, window treatment, etc. 

    We release a lot of energy while we sleep and it all gets absorbed into our surroundings unless you make a point of clearing the energy and keeping it fresh.

    Along with opening the windows - which might not always be possible in some cases - know that there are 2 solutions that can help clear your bedroom air.

    1. Ultrasonic aromatherapy diffusers work miracles, spread healing energy of essential oils that both purify the air, as well as evoke specific energies. Start with ready-made essential oil blends such as love or joy, for example, and then make your own mixes from favorite essential oils.

    2. Natural candles such as soy or beeswax purify the air and bring a warm, soothing and nourishing quality to it.

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    4. Nourish Your Sense of Touch

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    Being loved is being touched - emotionally, as well as physically. The embrace of a lover or close friend can soothe many pains; the sense of touch is very important for our well-being. Feng shui-wise, this translates into having a bedroom that nourishes your sense of touch, which is a space where anything you touch, softly touches your heart back.

    So in addition to creating a space with nourishing, sensual light and fresh air filled with pleasant relaxing energy, look for a variety of materials and fabrics that are genuinely pleasant to touch.

    A well-layered bed is an art form that you can easily learn, but the main "ingredient" is to have sensual fabrics to cherish yours - as well as your lover's  - body with. Most natural fabrics have soothing, healthy energy for the human body - from silk and Belgian linen to high thread cotton and bamboo fabrics.

    Maybe you can have less expensive items in your living room or main entry - which is often done to impress others - and splurge on things that are intimately close to your body. Items that help you feel cherished and treated during the long hours that we spend in bed. 

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    5. Nourish Your Visual Senses

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    We are visual creatures for sure and it is important to nourish your sense of sight in your bedroom, too. In the language of feng shui, everything you see in your bedroom is programming you on a subconscious level with powerful messages, so be sure you choose the colors and the images in your bedroom wisely.

    Read: ​​​Good Feng Shui Bedroom Art 

    Choose Your Best Bedroom Colors

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    6. Say No to Clutter and Mean it

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    There should be no compromises when it comes to clutter in your bedroom. Taking care of your energy and expressing self-love means you are surrounding yourself with the best quality energy possible. Know that clutter and good energy cannot co-exist, so do make an effort to let go fo clutter in your bedroom. ​

    It's a paradox that many people store clutter under their bed, or in the bedroom closet, as these are definitely the worst places to have clutter in ​your home. Respect and love yourself enough to let your body rejuvenate in a clean space full of good energy.

    Read: Easy Clutter Clearing with Feng Shui

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    7. Express What You Want

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    Feng shui-wise, it is important, even necessary to visually express the energy you love and want in your life. Your bedroom is one of the best feng shui spots where you can strategically place powerful images that reflect what you want in life. Be it images of your most romantic moments or most beautiful places on earth that you want to visit - find a way to tastefully display the desired energy in your bedroom.

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    8. A Good Flow of Chi Leads to Good Communication

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    Any relationship - be it with yourself or with others -  is as good as the level of awareness and the clarity of communication in it. Nobody likes feeling foggy, unclear or confused. 

    While feng shui is not offering you a magical solution, it can definitely help you create a clear flow of energy in your space. This will promote, support and encourage a good flow of communication both in your inner, as well as your outer world.

    Read: How To Check the Flow of Energy in Your Space

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    9. Watch for the Red Flags

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    After you've created a space where love and nourishment create the main energy foundation, you can go deeper with feng shui and look for subtle red flags that can drain the energy in your bedroom. For example, no matter how beautiful, a big mirror reflecting the bed is considered bad feng shui. A bed placed under the window is bad feng shui, too. We have a complete list of bedroom feng shui dilemmas along with practical solutions to balance the energy in many challenging feng shui bedroom setups.

    Read: Feng Shui Solutions for Your Bedroom Dilemmas

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    10. The Alignment of Doors and Windows

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    This feng shui dilemma deserves special attention because energetically it is a very active one. Basically, energy is always circulating between doors and windows, and it is helpful for you to understand its specific dynamic in your bedroom.

    Is your door aligned with the ensuite bathroom door? Is the bedroom door aligned with a big window? Several big windows in a row? The feng shui goal is to attract good energy into the bedroom and let it settle in, to not lose it through a big window aligned with the door, or any other door, be it a closet door or a bathroom door. 

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    11. Three Love Energy Killers in the Bedroom

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    This might sound dramatic, but yes, there are specific items that will just kill the good, sensual and nourishing energy in your bedroom; be absolutely sure your bedroom is free of them. Three of the main items that do not belong in a loving bedroom are:

    1. TV

    2. Exercise Equipment

    3. Work-related Items

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    12. Keep It All Fresh

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    The last step is the one that has to be done quite often. As feng shui is all about energy, it is important to know that good energy takes time and effort to create and maintain. So, after you've created a bedroom that is full of the energy of love, sensuality, and nourishment, be sure you do some space clearing from time to time. Basic space clearing is easy, fun and makes a big difference in the feel of this most important room in your home.

    Read: How To Do Weekly Space Clearing