Your bedroom serves two main purposes: sleep and sex. If you've been doing a little more sleep and a little less of the latter, it's time to rethink your bedroom. It's easy to get into the habit of sleeping in an unmade bed or tossing dirty laundry in a pile on the floor, but these daily habits are anything but sexy. When it comes to creating a more relaxing, sex-friendly oasis in your bedroom, a few easy upgrades are all it takes.
Whether it's been ages since you last renovated your bedroom or you just need to make a few small enhancements, here are the best ways to get your bedroom ready for a little action.
Invest in Good Candles
The romantic glow provided by candlelight is so hard to deny that it’s practically a cliché. But there’s a reason why candles are at the top of the sexy list: They give just enough light to see your partner without being too bright. The glow of a candle is universally flattering to every complexion, and there's just something about the dance of the flame that's incredibly sensuous. Plus, scented candles can help add a little perfume to the air and create a romantic atmosphere.
Always Have Two Nightstands
Whether you live with your partner or you live alone, make sure you provide enough storage space to make your guest feel welcome and at home. There's nothing worse than turning over in bed after a long night only to find there's nowhere to place a glass of water or charge a phone. A nightstand is a must, but a nightstand with a drawer to hide condoms, gum, or any other necessities is even better.
Splurge on High Thread Count Sheets
It's hard to get in the mood when scratchy sheets are making you itch in places you don't want to think about. Getting your bedroom ready for sex starts with your bed, and high thread count sheets are key to getting down. The good news? Great sheets don't have to cost an arm and a leg, as long as you know what to look for when you buy a new set.
Pick the Right Bedside Lamps
Now that we've established that two nightstands are essential to a sexy bedroom, it's time to consider the lighting. The right lighting provides just enough of a glow to see your partner or stumble to the kitchen for a glass of water but isn't unflattering at, ahem, certain angles. Consider swapping standard bulbs out for a dimmer Edison bulb or look for bedside lamps that come with dimmers, so you can turn down the light when you want to set the mood.
Keep Clutter Away
While there are lots of items you can add to your bedroom to up its sexiness quotient, there are also things that can make a bedroom decidedly unsexy. Clutter of all types belongs to the second group. Piles of laundry (whether clean and waiting for a dresser or even worse, unwashed) is decidedly not sexy. Nor are dirty dishes, piles of papers, a teetering stack of magazines or an overabundance of cosmetics. It doesn’t take that long each day to keep your room neat and organized—but even if tidying isn’t a daily habit, take a few minutes to straighten the room up before getting intimate.
Ditch the TV
There are two schools of thought when it comes to bringing a TV into the bedroom, but if your goal is to create a restful and sexy bedroom, confine the TV to the den. Not only does a TV in the bedroom create bad feng shui, but there's nothing less sexy than your partner watching the latest "Friends" reunion when you're trying to get in the mood.
Add Fresh Flowers or Plants
One of the easiest ways to create a welcoming, sexy space is to add a vase or two of fresh flowers or a few potted plants. But make sure they're alive and thriving—a dying, wilted plant is definitely not a turn-on. Look for flowers or plants that won't irritate allergies, such as hibiscus or a cactus, so you don't cause your date to reach for the Benadryl.
Put the Family Pictures Away
Sure, you love your family, but it's hard to get in the mood when great aunt Mildred is watching you from the dresser. Either confine family pictures to the rooms where sex isn't a priority or tuck them away in a closet when you want to set a steamy mood. Either way, we're sure grandma will understand.
Though it may seem counterintuitive to creating a sexy retreat, a small wireless speaker is a great way to bring a little atmosphere to your bedroom. Not only can you play a sexy soundtrack to impress your date, but you can also easily turn on white noise to tune out street sounds or next door neighbors. There's nothing sexy about hearing your wall mate's conversations when you're trying to get intimate.
Invest in a Sturdy Bed
It may sound obvious, but there are many bed frames out there that just aren't built for getting down. If you want to create the most inviting bedroom for your partner, make sure your bed is squeak-free and will hold up to a lot of movement. Look for bed frames with sturdy legs made of real wood. And while platform beds are on trend, don't dismiss the, ahem, usefulness of a real headboard.
Bring in Essential Oils
Essential oils can have a therapeutic effect when diffused in your home. To spark a little passion, consider using an oil such as patchouli, jasmine, or cinnamon. These essential oils can increase circulation, improve blood flow, and intensify sexual desire. Invest in an oil burner or a reed diffuser, and let your sense of smell enhance your sex life.