Moving to a new school is difficult, and even more difficult is making that change during the school year. But if you're a parent who has to transfer his or her child to another school, take heart. Children will adjust; it might just take a little more effort on your part to help them settle easily into the new school.
Talk to Teachers and Administrators Before You Move
School administrators will be the first to tell you that it's important for the school to be notified of your children's arrival, any special needs your children may have, and if there were any problems at the old school.
You may also want to discuss how your children feel about the move, or if you have a child who is shy or has academic challenges you're concerned about. Remember, teachers and staff are there to help you with the transition. The more you're willing to share, the easier you'll make it for your children to succeed.
It's also equally important to point out your child's strengths, passions and what he might miss about his old school. For instance, if your child played in the school band, and the new school doesn't have a band program, you may ask the staff what the community offers as an alternative, or if they have other suggestions on how you can keep your child engaged. It's critical that the things your child loved to do in the old school be transferred to the new community.
Talk to your Children About What to Expect
Remember that each child will have his own way of dealing with the change.
Some children will be vocal, while others may have a harder time expressing their feelings. Ask your kids what they need, how you can help and how they're feeling about the change. The sooner you start to talk to them about the move, the sooner they'll start to open up. Remind them that you know the move will be hard on them and that you're there to help.
And when your children share their feelings, make sure you try to understand what they're going through and be sympathetic even though you're going through your own transition and change.
Get Kids Involved in School Activities
Talk about the activities at the new school that your kids might be interested in joining. Knowing ahead of time what the school offers is a great way to help your children begin the transition. If possible, get in touch with school coaches, teachers, councilors -- whoever can assist in getting your children immersed in their new environment. Find out if the school has a buddy system for new students and ask for the buddy's name in advance.
Encourage Kids to Stay in Touch and Make New Friends
A great way to start the transition to the new school is to contact your child's new teacher and ask that soon-to-be classmates offer to be pen pals. Teachers are usually quite open to this idea as it helps bridge the gap and encourages students to become active in another child's experience. While it's a great idea to encourage your children to stay in touch with old friends, making new friends in the new school is even more important. Try to balance contact with old friends and contact with new friends.
Often you'll find that once your children are in their new school, it'll just take a few weeks before the new friends begin to take center stage.
Stay in Touch and Engaged After the Move
Even if it seems that your children have adapted to their new school, make sure you ask to speak to teachers and administrators who may have a better view of just how well your children have adjusted. They may see signs of trouble before you do; some children hide problems from their parents and want you to think that everything is fine.