How to Ask a Friend to Be a Bridesmaid

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Most likely you have some close friends, family members, and loved ones who you'd love to have as a part of your special day. One great way to include some of these people in your wedding is to invite them to be a part of your wedding party. Being a bridesmaid is a big commitment in terms of both time and money, so it is important to put some real thought and care into the way you choose to ask each person. Whether it's your sister or your lifelong best friend, you want the act of asking her to be in your bridal party to feel thoughtful, special, and meaningful so that she knows how important she is to you. 

If you are looking for creative ways to ask your friend to be your bridesmaid, don't miss this list of ideas:

  1. Face to Face If at all possible, I recommend asking your friend face-to-face for a more personal and heartfelt moment. Consider taking her out to lunch or dinner, just the two of you, so that you can dedicate some time to telling her how much her friendship means to you and how honored you would be to have her stand beside you on your big day. 
  2. Send a Special Gift If your intended bridesmaid lives far away and meeting in person isn't an option, there's nothing wrong with giving her a call on the phone to invite her to be your bridesmaid. Sharing how much it would mean to you to have her involved in your wedding will still be very special, but you could also consider sending a special surprise gift or card in the mail. There are so many cute "Will You Be My Bridesmaid?" Cards to choose from, or you could even make your own for an extra personal touch.
    You could even create a Bridesmaids Proposal Box filled with cute, small gifts to celebrate the happy moment. 
  3. Have a Sense of Humor Ask your friend to be your bridesmaid in a humorous way. It's a long-standing joke that most bridesmaid dresses are heinously ugly and that most women dread having to wear them and therefore dread being asked to be in a wedding party. The people at have assembled a mind-boggling collection of bad bridesmaids dresses. Print out your favorite ones, and use them to creatively make a card. You can write something like "I know you've always wanted to wear a peach monstrosity with a butt-widening bow on the back. Will you be a part of our wedding party?" or "I will never ask you to wear an ugly dress, as long as you're my bridesmaid!"
    You could also create a card that puts you in the midst of a celebrity wedding! Search for pictures of iconic celebrity weddings like Liza Minnelli, Britney Spears, and Kim Kardashian. Cut out one of the bridesmaids' faces and put your friend's picture there instead. On the inside of the card, write something like, "I know our wedding can never compete with your pal Liza's bash, but at least you won't have to wear such an ugly dress or put up with the paparazzi. Will you be my bridesmaid?"
  4. Sweetly Sentimental Make a small photo album featuring only pictures of the two of you throughout your friendship. On the last page, write your wedding date, leaving room for a photo of the two of you. As she's looking through the book and gets to that page, say "I can't wait to put a picture of the two of us from my wedding day on that page. Will you be my bridesmaid?"

Hopefully, one of these ideas has gotten your wheels turning for creative ways to ask your bridesmaids to be a part of your big day.