How to Write Wedding Thank You Cards

Writing thank you notes is a breeze with these examples

Bride & groom with Thank You sign

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When writing wedding thank you cards, it's easy to get stumped on what to say, particularly when you don't know the person well or when you just don't like the wedding gift.

Don't get tripped up on writing thank you cards. Planning the wedding—the hard part—is over. This is the easy part. 

There is a variety of thank you card options to choose from. Pick a set of cards that best represents you as a couple or matches your wedding theme.

Depending on how well you know the gift-giver, feel free to incorporate a formal greeting ("Dear Mr. Smith") or a more casual one ("Dear John"). You can also modify the closing accordingly, e.g. "Sincerely," "With love," "Best wishes" and the like.

Illustration depicting how to write a thank-you note
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For a Close Friend or Relative

It is often easy to incorporate personal details in the note to those you know best. Even if the gift wasn't to your taste, you can show how much you enjoyed making memories with them at your wedding.

Dear Aunt Anne and Uncle Joe,

Thank you so much for the gorgeous lace tablecloth! It's beautiful, and we were both incredibly touched that you gave us this family heirloom. It was wonderful, as always, to see you at the wedding. I especially loved jitterbugging with Uncle Joe. I can’t wait to catch up and tell you all about the honeymoon and married life.

With love,

Christine and Todd

For Someone You Don’t Know Very Well

You can be a bit more generic when you don't know the person well, but still, show that their presence was appreciated along with their present.

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Johnson,

Thank you for the beautiful vase that you sent Christine and me as a wedding present. I know we will enjoy it for many years to come. It was wonderful to finally get to meet you at the wedding. We really appreciate that you were able to witness such a happy day for us and our families.

Sincerely yours,

Todd and Christine

For When You’ve Received Cash or a Gift Certificate

When receiving cash or a gift card, you can use the thank you card to tell the givers how you used it.

Dear Terry and Vicky,

Todd and I wanted to thank you for the check you sent as a wedding gift. We are saving to buy a new car and your gift will help us reach our goal. We can’t wait to take you for a spin around the neighborhood.

Best,

Christine and Todd

For an Item off of Your Registry

It's great to get the items you truly wanted. Include this in your thanks.

Dear Jack,

I'm writing to thank you for the china place settings you so kindly sent as a wedding gift. Wedding china is such a thoughtful gift and an instant family heirloom. Now we have a service for eight. I’m sure we’ll use it for years to come.

Thanks again,

Christine and Todd

For a Donation to a Charity

Couples who already have established households may ask for charity donations instead of gifts. You can show appreciation for the support of your charity and the impact of its work.

Dear Alice,

Thank you for your thoughtful wedding gift to the ASPCA in our names. As you know, this charity is very dear to both of us; they do such wonderful work for all of the animals in our area and across the country. We can’t imagine a more wonderful present than a donation to such a worthy cause.

With best wishes,

Todd and Christine

For When You Don’t Like the Gift

It's not unusual to get a gift that's a real head-scratcher or doesn't match your style. The note still needs to show appreciation for their attendance and should not include any snarky comments.

Dear Mrs. Goreham,

Thank you for the velvet painting of dogs playing poker. It is certainly a unique wedding gift. You are always so thoughtful and generous, and it was so nice of you to join us at our wedding. We hope to see you soon.

With love,

Todd and Christine

For Someone Who Sent a Gift but Wasn’t at the Wedding

Show your appreciation and understanding that not everyone can attend an event.

Dear Mr. Jacobs,

Thank you so much for the gold-plated candlesticks you sent us as a wedding gift. It was so thoughtful of you! I’m so sorry that you couldn’t attend the wedding—it went just as planned, but we missed you. We'd love to get together soon so you can see the pictures!

Best,

Christine and Todd