The Not-Yet-Newlywed Game for a Jack and Jill Shower

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If you are looking for more of an unconventional bridal shower, we love the idea of a "Jack and Jill" style event. A Jack and Jill bridal shower includes both the bride and groom as well as male and female guests. Just like a traditional, bride-only shower, the purpose of a bridal shower is to support the bride and groom with good wishes, gifts, a fun time and the company of their closest family and friends. But why not use it as an opportunity for the guests to have fun too?

There's no need for the only activity to be eating cake and watching the couple as they open their gifts. Instead, organize a bridal shower game or two (or three!) to break the ice among guests that don't know each other well (such as friends of the bride and her family) and you'll give everyone more to talk about after the party than simply the model of blender the couple received at their shower.

Not-Yet-Newlywed Game

Since you know both the bride and groom will be present at a Jack and Jill shower, why not have a little gentle fun with the couple by playing the Not-Yet-Newlywed Game. This will help them get to know each other a little better, and the guests will learn more about the happy couple too.

Seat the bride and groom in front of their guests and hand each one a notepad and pencil. Then, slowly read each question out loud and give them a moment to record their answers. Once all of the questions have been answered, read back the answer to the group and see how well the couple already knows each other.

You can also turn this into a competitive activity with your guests by asking for other volunteer couples from the group and play it like the traditional Newlywed Game, giving out prizes to the couples with the most matching answers.

Here are possible questions you can ask during this game. Whatever you do, make it light, fun and don't ask anything which would be embarrassing for the couple to answer in front of their parents, and nothing that will cause a disagreement between the happy couple.

  • What is your partner's favorite thing to drink in the morning?
  • What is your partner's favorite thing to eat in the morning?
  • Is your partner a morning bird or a night owl?
  • Will your partner want to have pets and if so, how many?
  • What is your partner most looking forward to doing at your honeymoon destination?
  • What is your partner's least favorite thing to eat?
  • Where did you share your first romantic kiss?
  • What is your partner's favorite movie?
  • What is your partner's favorite book?
  • What is your partner's favorite TV show?
  • Which of you apologize first after an argument?
  • Who will do most of the cooking during the marriage?
  • Who is the better driver?
  • Which partner has a relative living farthest away?
  • Which partner has the oldest relative?
  • Where would your partner like to go on their next vacation after the honeymoon?
  • What is your partner's secret talent?
  • How many friends does your partner have on Facebook?
  • If your partner could only bring one thing besides you to a desert island, what would it be?
  • What's your partner's favorite season?
  • Which of your habits does your partner most dislike about you?
  • Which item of clothing does your partner wish you would throw away?
  • Is your partner a country mouse or a city mouse?
  • What's your partner's secret ambition?