Wedding Sand Ceremony Vows

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During a wedding sand ceremony, it's common to include some wording that explains what is happening, and what it represents to you. Though you can do it in silence, or during a reading or song, consider having your officiant say a few words.

Basic Sand Ceremony Wording

Officiant: We now celebrate ______ and ______’s union with a symbolic sand ceremony. First, we will pour sand from this beautiful beach where ______ and ______ stand today as they commit their lives to each other, representing the strong foundation of their relationship. That foundation includes their families, their upbringing, and all the important steps on their journeys that led them to be who they are today. This foundation will support them in their love as they grow and change together. (If you are not having a beach wedding, the foundation sand can be from your hometown or just neutral white sand.)

______ and ______, today you are making a lasting commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other. That commitment is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand; one that represents ______ (who now pours in some of his/her sand) and the other that represents ______, (who pours some of his/her sand on top).

Each of you comes to this relationship with unique strengths, vulnerabilities, and histories. As individuals, you are beautiful people all on your own. Yet when the two of you are blended together, you form something even more beautiful. Those strengths can blossom, those vulnerabilities can be cared for, and those people can soar.

As the two containers of sand are poured into the vase, (both participants simultaneously pour their remaining sand in the central vase) the separate colors of sand now blend into a new color. You have now blended your families into a new family, as you start your journey in marriage, loving and strong as husband and wife, as inseparable as these grains of sand.

Romantic Sand Ceremony Wording

Officiant: Love is a force more formidable than any other. It cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession ever could. But although this love joins you together as one, remember the gift of your individuality. Cherish and affirm your differences as you love each other. Be supportive of your strengths, and tender towards your weaknesses. Laugh together, cry together, be comforted by each other's presence, and secure in each other's absence.

To symbolize the importance of each of you within the marriage and the joining of your two lives into one marriage, 3 colors of sand will now be combined in a sand ceremony.

We begin with a layer of white sand, which symbolizes the foundation of the relationship. Then ______ and ______ will each separately pour their sand into the vase, symbolizing who they are as individuals. Then, they will pour together, blending their two colors as a symbol of their joining together forever in love. Lastly, I will add another layer of white sand, representing you, their community, supporting them in their marriage and holding them in love. Though the vase may be moved around, and the colors may shift and blend in new ways, the grains of sand cannot be separated. They will remain joined in a harmonious whole. (The officiant holds up the completed vase, presenting it to the guests.) May your love be as eternal and as inseparable as this sand.

Sand Ceremony That Includes Children

If you are blending families, a sand ceremony is a nice way to include your children in the wedding ceremony. Be sure to get a table low enough that the kids can easily reach. A wide mouth vase is helpful for less coordinated little hands, and some kids may need assistance with their pouring.​

Officiant: ______ and _______, today you are making a lasting commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other, joining your two families into one.

First, you will each separately pour a layer of sand into the vase, representing who you are as an individual. (First one person pours, then the other, forming two distinct layers of sand.)Then, you will pour simultaneously, blending your two colors as you will blend your lives in marriage. (The couple pours simultaneously. Depending on the size and shape of the vase, it may form a third color, or a swirl of the two colors.)

Officiant: As the individual grains of sand can no longer be separated, may your bond also be inseparable.

But you are also making a bond with your children, ______ and _______. As they also contribute their unique personalities and strengths to this new family, they will also individually add a layer of sand to this unity vase. (Pause as the children pour their sand individually, forming separate layers over their parents' blended sand.) Then everyone, _____, _____, _____ and ______ will pour together, representing their commitment to each other. (Everyone pours simultaneously. If you have many children, it may be difficult to have everyone around the vase at once, but it should be as simultaneous as possible.)

Religious Sand Ceremony Vows

If you're having a religious wedding, it's appropriate to have religious sand ceremony vows. Your officiant can add in scripture or prayers, and might already have a standard wording to use. Here is a basic format:

Officiant: “Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). God created you as an individual, perfect by His glory and love. But God also said that it was not good for man to be alone, and so he created woman to be his partner and helper. Today as you make a covenant before God to join in marriage, you become one flesh. You have chosen to symbolize that union with a sand ceremony.

First, I will pour in white sand, representing your faith in God as the foundation of who you are as individuals. Now _____, pour some of your sand, representing yourself as an individual before you came to this union. Now _____, also pour some of your sand, representing yourself as an individual before you came to this union. I will then pour some more white sand, representing your faith in God as the foundation of your marriage.

Then, _____ and _____ pour your remaining sand together to represent you're joining as one in marriage completely and eternally. Lastly, another layer of white sand represents God watching over you and protecting you with his everlasting love.

May God bless this marriage so that you are as inseparable as these grains of sand. Amen.