Just because the two of you are growing older doesn't mean you can't celebrate your birthdays together and have fun! Celebrating life events like a birthday can be either a private experience or the celebration can include a larger gathering of friends and family. Either way, make sure that the celebration is one that will delight your spouse. Expensive gifts are not necessary!
Bob used to surprise me by taking me to a place he knew I liked but wasn't his type of place — the museum, tour a historic site, take a ride to some area of our county where we hadn't been before.
Or he would give me something that he knew would touch my heart -- a miniature rose garden with an angel birdbath in memory of our three babies we lost, a coupon for flowers he would plant in the spring for me, a cd with songs that he knew I liked.
I'm a firm believer in gifts that have meaning. Bob gave me a sewing machine for our 1st Christmas and I was crushed. He didn't give me "useful" gifts like that again!
- Do not plan anything that will embarrass your spouse.
- Remember you are never too old to have some fun!
- When making your plans for the birthday party, ask yourself what your spouse enjoys to do.
- Wake your spouse with a "Happy Birthday", and continue to make the whole day special with surprise notes, little gifts throughout the day, and ending with a romantic date for the two of you or with a birthday party with invited guests.
- Take lots of pictures. Consider having disposable cameras available if you are having a large party.
- Ask guests to share words of appreciation and well-wishes with toasts to the birthday person.
- Local Park
- Arts Council or Art Gallery
- Favorite Restaurant
- Community Theatre
- Somewhere you can Dance
- The Beach
- Home (but make sure your spouse doesn't have to do any cleaning up after the party!)
- Scavenger Hunt
- Silly Supper
- Magic Party
- The 50s, 60s, 70s, etc Era
- Over the Hill
- Picnic - can be either inside or outside
- Weekend Away from Home
- A Day Alone Together
- A coupon for a day for your spouse to be totally alone with no responsibilities to you, job, or the kids.
- Coupon for being a weekend slave to clean, declutter, organize, shop, etc.
- Ask guests to submit a photo or a letter that tells of a favorite memory with your spouse. Put these into a scrapbook. Parents may tell a funny story from your mate's childhood, old friends will have great tales from earlier years, and you can share a memorable story from your marriage.