Thank You Note Ideas for Friendship

a thank you friendship note

 The Spruce

You have a special friend who is always there when you need her. She might be the type of friend who listens to you without passing judgment. She's the person who comes to your rescue when you're having a problem.

Does she instinctively know when you need an encouraging word? She's the one who is always there to give you the boost you need.

This type of friend is special and only comes along once in a while. In fact, many people only have one such friend in their entire life. Maybe it's time to send a friendship thank you letter to show how much you appreciate her being there for you.

Showing Gratitude

The best way to express your gratitude to this person is by jotting down some heartfelt words that are specific to your relationship. A thank you note just might be the very thing she needs to get through a rough day of her own, and it will let her know that her gestures toward you have been noticed.

You may or may not choose to add a gift as a token of your friendship. It can be a gift card to her favorite restaurant, a spa pass, or a basket of her favorite teas. Or it may be a dinner that you prepare just for her.

Perhaps you can do something special for her, like bake her a batch of cookies, simply because you know she would appreciate or enjoy it. Whatever you do, let her know that you want her to feel as special as she makes you feel.

Another thing you might consider adding is a photograph of the two of you doing something special. If you took a vacation together or enjoyed a specific activity, she'll smile at the memory and the fact that you thought enough about her to give it to her. You may want to tuck it into the thank you note, or you can put it in a special frame that you know she'll like.

Sometimes it's difficult to come up with just the right words to let your special friend know how much you appreciate her. But the fact that you care enough to write her a letter shows her how much you value her friendship.

Handwritten Note

Although store-bought greeting cards are fun to give and receive, it's difficult to find the perfect one that expresses what's deep in your heart. That's why it's good to add your own personal thoughts so your friend knows it's specifically for her.

You can do this on a store-bought card or write it on a blank piece of paper. If you want to make it extra special, use some pretty stationery.

Sample Friendship Notes

Of course, you'll want to use your own words. However, if you have trouble getting started, use these to prompt some of your own thoughts.

Dear Pamela,
If everyone had a friend like you, they would all be happy. I just want you to know how much I appreciate you and your friendship. It’s great to know that I always have someone I can trust with my joys, gripes, and my secret chocolate cake recipe. You will always be close to my heart!


Dear Juliana,
Whenever I think of fun, witty, and kind, your name and image instantly come to mind. I don’t know what I’d do without you. Thank you so much for being the kind of person you are.
Love and best friends forever,


Dear Marylou,
Friends like you come along once in a lifetime. I don't think I have enough words to express how much I appreciate all the times you've listened to me and been there when I needed someone. It's wonderful to know that you care enough to stick by my side through the good times and the bad. I hope I can be as good of a friend to you as you are to me.
Love you dearly,


Dear Jessica,
I've heard people say that friends are like precious gold, and I agree. You have been the gold nugget that reminds me how valuable good friends can be. Thank you so much for always being by my side, no matter what.

Apologies with Thanks

There may also be times when you need to apologize to a special friend. Don't let another day go by after a disagreement or action that can drive a wedge between you and someone whose friendship you value. Include the mention of your gratitude in your note.

Dear Joanne,
Please accept my apology for being so thoughtless last night. I should never have said what I did. I value our friendship and hope that you can find it in your heart to forgive me. If you would like to talk about it, please give me a call.
Your caring friend,


Dear Linda,
I am so sorry that I missed our lunch meeting yesterday. I have no excuse for forgetting to write it on my calendar. Can we make plans again to get together, my treat? How about next Saturday?
Embarrassed but grateful for your friendship,


Dear Susan,
I feel terrible that I lost your scarf. I want you to know how much I appreciate your letting me wear it, but more than that, I I'm grateful for the fact that you are always there for me. Please accept this new scarf and know that I value our friendship.
Your friend,

Sending the Letter

There are many ways you can get this letter to your friend. You can email, text, or hand it to her. However, the most special way is to address an envelope, stick the letter inside, and put a stamp on it. Drop it in a mailbox, and in a day or two, she'll have it. This might be just the thing she needs to brighten her day.