The Basics of Gay Adoption

Gay Adoption Basics to Know

Gay adoption is nothing new. Gays and lesbians have been adopting for a long time, but legislation has gradually changed, offering them more options than ever before. Some facts and issues are unique to this community. Here are the basics. 

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    Adoption Options for Gay Parents

    Rear view of a boy walking with two men in a park
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    Gay couples can explore several types of adoption, from foster care adoption to international adoptions. A successful adoption can depend on whether the agency, the state and/or the country are open to gay parents adopting.

    Just as for heterosexual couples, the first real question is whether adoption is right for you and your family. Explore your feelings and expectations with each other — with the help of a counselor or therapist if necessary. The road ahead may be difficult and filled with...MORE obstacles despite the fact that gay adoption grows more commonplace every day, so make sure you're on solid footing before you start. 

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    The Adoption Home Study

    Gay and lesbian adoptions have become more common in recent years.
    Gay and lesbian adoptions are more common in recent years. There are several options in building a family through adoption. Brendan Smialowski/Getty Images

    The adoption home study is one of the first hurdles in any adoption process. In the past — and perhaps still today in some areas of the country — gay couples have resorted to lying about their statuses so they could adopt. One partner might adopt the child while the other pretends to be a roommate or a friend. But it is necessary to recognize the importance of honesty when you're adopting. Although it may be legal to omit certain information, it is not legal to lie when you're asked a...MORE specific question. It may be considered fraud and could be cause for an adoption to be denied or for an already established placement to be disrupted.

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    Gay Adoption by the Numbers

    As many argue over whether gay adoption should be banned, many children thrive in gay families.
    Frank Martin Gill of Florida spends time with one of his foster sons. He has been fighting the gay adoption ban. Joe Raedle/Getty Images

    The exact number of gay couples who have adopted is unknown, perhaps due to the fact that society still seems to harbor a certain fear regarding gay parenting. But some statistics do exist thanks to censuses and national surveys, indicating that gay and lesbian adoptive parents are still much in the minority. 

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    Fear Surrounding Gay Adoption

    A little girl dances with one of her dads. There are several homosexual parents in the U.S.
    Some worry children will be teased about having homosexual parents, a little girl dances with one of her dads without worry. Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images

    Many studies have attempted to determine how children are being raised in gay and lesbian unions. These studies are sometimes biased depending on who has done the research. Gay and lesbian groups tend to show positive results, while religious or conservative groups often indicate negative results. Many of the concerns center around understanding sexual orientation and establishing whether children will develop emotional problems due to having gay parents.

    Research has not found a single study...MORE showing that the children of gay or lesbian parents are disadvantaged in any significant respect. 

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    Gay Adoption Legalities and Issues

    Frank Martin Gill, a gay foster parent, stops to spend time with one of his foster sons.
    Frank Martin Gill, who has been fighting for equal rights as a gay foster parent, stops to spend time with one of his foster sons. Joe Raedle/Getty Images

    It is more common for one partner to adopt and the second to then apply to the court as a second parent or co-parent. Second parent adoptions create another legally-recognized parent for adoptive children, providing all the same parent/child rights and responsibilities that other families enjoy. Think of it as a stepparent adoption among heterosexual married couples. Second-parent adoptions have been granted by the courts in 13 states and the District of Columbia as of 2015. 

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    Support and Resources for Gay Parents

    A 5 month old baby girl enjoys time with her family.
    A 5 month old baby girl enjoys time with her family. The couple had to establish residency in Vermont in order to adopt. David Friedman/Getty Images

    After the adoption is final, life goes on. All families need support from family and friends. Some gay couples find that their parents — who may have been upset at one time about their children's lifestyle choices — come around when grandchildren enter the picture. Hopefully, you'll have lots of support in your "real world," but numerous Internet resources ​are available for gay and lesbian parents. It's also good for both kids and parents to read books about families just...MORE like their own.