It is hard to imagine a more difficult transition for a child than to be a party to his or her parents' divorce. I have watched this closely the last few months as some very good friends of ours have been separated and preparing for divorce.
And even through attempts at reconciliation through family counseling, the children have suffered. Learn more about the effects of divorce on children and what fathers and mothers can do to make a very difficult process at least a little easier to manage for the kids.
We have all seen the effects of divorce on children in our family, neighborhood or community. Multiple scholarly studies show that the divorce of their parents causes a big impact on children. Learn how children of divorce are affected by the breakup of a family and what parents can do to make the transition easier.
Watch for the Warning Signs of Emotional or Physical Distress
With children bearing such a big part of the burden of their parents' divorce, a parent needs to be able to discern when their child is having emotional challenges during and after the divorce process. Learn more about the warning signs of emotional or physical distress resulting from the dissolution of the family and what parents can do to help address these danger signs.
As you begin to work through a divorce process with your children, you will want to use some time-tested and effective strategies and approaches to helping your children cope with your divorce.
These specific strategies will be helpful to any parent trying to navigate through the process of divorce and still support their children.
Sometimes using a book with your children can help you convey important messages. And this seems to work especially well when the topic is sensitive and complicated.
This list of books that you can use to help your children understand and cope with a divorce offers some very helpful resources for having just such a conversation.
One thing a father can do to help his children transition through a divorce is to stay close by and stay involved in their lives. Learn why it is important and how to make choices that let you continue your relationship with the children after a divorce and how to maximize the opportunity to be a support to your children, even if they are not living with you.
In order for dads to work well with their children through the divorce process, they need to be taking care of their own needs as well. An empty emotional bucket cannot help fill the bucket of another, especially a child who is feeling the effects of a divorce in his or her own life. Find out what dads do to take care of their own physical and emotional needs and how they can use that strength to help their children through their own processing of the experience.
It can be particularly traumatic for a father when his ex-wife remarries and his kids have a new stepfather - a different father figure in their lives.
And there is trauma for the kids as well as their loyalties to their dad may be confused or in question with a new stepfather. Find out how divorced dads can cope with the new stepfather and how to keep kids feeling good about their relationship with their dad.
So, it has been a while since the divorce and you are anxious for some female companionship. Dating is more difficult after a divorce than when you were single the last time. How should dad go about finding women and dating after a divorce? And what do you say to the kids and when?