While I sat filling in my planner with business meetings, client calls, sports practices and games, and school events I thought to myself, “I don’t know how I’m going to do it all”.
This isn’t the first time I have had this thought, but I know from experience that I figure it out. Why? Because I focus on thriving, not surviving. I will not play the role of victim. I will play the role of trailblazer.
I will thrive.
Let’s compare the definitions of surviving and thriving:
Surviving: To get along or remain healthy, happy or unaffected in spite of some occurrence; to endure or live through; to continue to live or exist after death, cessation, or occurrence of.
Thriving: To grow or develop vigorously; flourish or to prosper; be fortunate or successful.
Are you surviving or thriving as a Working Mom? Here's how can you have a thriving mindset.
Act Proactively Instead of Reactively
Here’s a favorite quote of mine from Stephen R. Covey’s book, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” about reactive language:
“The language of reactive people absolves them of responsibility.”
So for example, “I can’t focus on work today because I have too much going on in my mind.” Means you do not have control of your thoughts other circumstances or people do.
“I won’t have time later to get anything done.” This means limited time is controlling how you live your life and that’s just how it is.
Instead of thinking re-actively, switch your mindset to proactive thought in order to thrive. Take ownership of these things and create a plan. You know that when you have things well planned out your life runs a bit smoother. This is because you are acting proactively.
Withhold Your Judgment of Others
A way you survive is by comparing yourself to others.
When you aim to thrive it’s not about how other people perform, it’s about how you are feeling about what you’re doing. It’s about keeping an eye on the ball and focusing on your contributions.
When you don’t judge people, you feel better and build up your Mommy Energy. When you don't care about perfection you begin to thrive. Perfection will only hold you back and drain your energy, move past this.
Work Like a Pro and Just Do the Work
In Steven Pressfield’s book, “Turning Pro” he talks about just doing the work and expect that resistance will happen. He says,
“All of us need to begin to think in terms of our own inner strengths, our resilience, and resourcefulness, our capacity to adapt and to rely upon ourselves and our families.”
As a working mom, you are doing the work and you are tired. This is part of the deal when you do the work. The answer is to just do the work. Focus on whatever task is at hand and just do it.
When you are thriving you believe that things will not take all day to do, if you just start doing them. When the task is done, give yourself permission to rest.
Have activities that are unique to you that allow relaxation to settle in. These activities do not need to last hours.
Five to ten minutes is sometimes all you need to revive your Mommy Energy. Remember done is better than perfect. Put perfection in the passenger seat and start driving.
Thriving is about mastering your numerous on/off switches. When to turn on at home, off at work, or on about your self-care is the game of thriving which we are all capable of winning. It’s all about having the right mindset. How have you thrived this week either at work, at home, or both? Leave a comment over on my Facebook fan page and let me know!