10 Essential Tips on Proposing Marriage

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One of the biggest moments in your life is when you propose marriage or are proposed to. This is also one of the most exciting and memorable moments you will probably ever have. There is a lot of pressure to get it right. Just remember, there is no perfect proposal, just what is perfect for the two of you. Keep the most important part in mind: make sure you are in love and also choose the right person!

 

Here are ideas and tips on how to make your marriage proposal a memorable and delightful experience:

  1. Although it may seem like a dated tradition, know enough about your future in-laws to know if they would like it if you ask permission from them before you propose marriage. It is better to err on the side of caution if you are unsure and ask both the mother and father for permission. You can also ask a parental figure whom your future fiance is closest too (for example, a step-parent or grandparent who raised him or her).
  2. Know enough about your future spouse so you can create an ideal and meaningful experience. You won't want to take her to a vineyard to propose if she is in AA or to an amusement park if she gets motion sickness, right! Think about your partner's likes/dislikes, tastes, current activities and so on.  You also will want the element of surprise. So, perhaps doing something you normally do would not tip him or her off.  
  1. Decide if you are going to purchase the engagement ring before or after you propose marriage. It may seem odd to not have the ring, but it is certainly okay if you want to let your future fiance pick the ring. This can a very exciting part of the process of getting engaged. When purchasing an engagement ring, make sure you stay within your budget or financial capability.
  1. Pay attention to timing. Don't plan on proposing marriage when your future spouse is stressed or overwhelmed.
  2. Pick something that has become memorable during the course of your relationship. For example, a particular place, hearing a certain song, or an occasion such as where you first met, first kissed, had your first date, etc.
  3. Set a romantic tone for your marriage proposal. If you have a fight that day or something negative took place unexpectedly, you may want to put off the proposal if possible. If you have difficulty knowing what is romantic, read up on the topic online or in a book. 
  4. It's not recommended that you do something silly (like tying the engagement ring to a kite string or fishing line),you should try to keep your marriage proposal fun. If you do choose the silly route, make sure your girlfriend or boyfriend has a good sense of humor.
  5. Keep your marriage proposal simple. The more complicated the marriage proposal is, the more things that could go wrong with your proposal plans!
  6. Make sure you don't lose the engagement ring if you've purchased one and hid it. Some folks hide an engagement ring so well that even they can't find it. Purchase the insurance before you carry it out of the jewelry store as well!
  1. It's best to keep your marriage proposal private. Proposing in front of your future spouse's family or at a sports stadium may be exciting in the movies, but in real life, it is best to keep your marriage proposal just between the two of you.
     

Keep in mind:

  1. Sometimes your best-laid marriage proposal plans fall apart. Be prepared for this and go easy on yourself.
     
  2. Focus more on the moment than on the engagement ring and other externals surrounding the proposal.
     
  3. Do your best to not give your plans away by showing how nervous you are.
     

What you need:

  • A plan
  • A location
  • An engagement ring
  • Lots of love, confidence and a sense of humor

 

You May Also Like to Read: Is Your Relationship Headed for Marriage? Should You NOT Get Engaged?, Are You Really Ready to Get Married?, How Do I Choose The Right One? 

*Article updated by Marni Feuerman

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