Toilet Seats and Other Household Etiquette Issues

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Show respect for others in your household by putting the TV remote where it belongs. Steven Puetzer / Getty Images

One of the most common issues between men and women is whether or not it's important to put the toilet seat down after a man uses the bathroom. Most women think their guys should be considerate and get the potty ready for them. However, many men think it's a non-issue, which may or may not create a rift in the household. One of the things that ranks high on the list of good manners is following proper family etiquette guidelines.

There are other issues, such as leaving the cap on the toothpaste tube, putting things away when they're not in use, dropping dirty clothes anywhere but the laundry hamper, and letting dishes pile up in the sink rather than putting them into the dishwasher. Household members have argued and fumed about these points for decades, and they're likely to continue. It seems as though people are attracted to others who have polar opposite tolerances for what may appear to be trivial issues to some.

Toilet Seats

After a man finishes using the toilet, put the seat down. No one will be happy if the lady of the household sits down and falls in. Some men may wonder why women can't take that extra step before sitting on the toilet.

Don't forget that they generally have extra steps because they have to remove more clothing to use the toilet. The least you can do is take an extra second to lower the lid. Also remember that an ounce of prevention is worth way more than a pound of peace in the home.

That said, if you are in a houseful of men, go ahead and leave the seat up. Just don't forget to flush.

Cap on the Toothpaste Tube

After squeezing toothpaste onto your toothbrush, go ahead and put on the cap. If you don't, it will dry out and leave a gross crust that no one wants to put in her mouth.

It's also a good idea to squeeze the tube from the bottom because it seems to last longer that way. If you squeeze from the middle a bunch of it gets stuck in the bottom and it's more difficult to get out of the tube. Another thing that might happen if you don't replace the cap is that it's more likely to get lost.


After you finish using something, put it away. What's the worst thing that will happen? If you want to use it again, you'll know where it is. If you don't put it where it belongs, you'll wind up forming a pig pile that someone will have to clean up later. Not only does that take time, it breeds resentment in your neat-nick significant other. The small act of putting things away can keep your partner smiling and give both of you more time to enjoy each other.

Dirty Laundry

Why would anyone put dirty laundry anywhere but the laundry hamper? It doesn't belong on the closet floor, at the foot of the bed, or beside the hamper. All you have to do is take one more step and drop it into the place where it belongs. Otherwise, it makes a big mess, and it might not go into the washing machine on laundry day.

Dirty Dishes

It takes a few extra seconds to rinse a dish, bowl, glass, or mug and stick it in the dishwasher, so why let things pile up in the sink?

Many social experts claim that it takes 21 days to establish a habit, so start now, and it will become second nature in less than a month. The bonus is that you won't have to scramble so quickly when someone stops by for a visit. You can kick back and enjoy being a good host.

TV Remote

Now that almost all TVs have remotes, it's easy to get into a habit of never getting out of the chair. All you have to do is reach over and pick it up from the end table (or in some cases, from between sofa cushions), point it at the screen, and click a button. That's great, except for one thing: If you move the remote, others won't be able to find it, and they'll get annoyed. Have a designated place for the remote, and you can avoid one more argument. As soon as your children are old enough to turn on the TV, teach them to put it where it belongs.