Best Dinner Party Discussion Questions

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Tonight's party night! You've done all the legwork and purchased the beer and wine. Your carefully planned menu is ready to be served and the table is set. The centerpiece is awaiting its compliments and your playlist is setting the tone. You're almost ready for your guests to arrive, but have you given any thought to how to get the conversation flowing? Unless this is a group of friends or family who is very comfortable with one another, it's important to think about ways you can get your group of guests to converse.

How to Liven up the Party With Topic Ideas

Even with a comfortable group, it doesn't hurt to introduce a new topic of conversation to liven up the party. That's why many hosts find it helpful to choose a few topics of conversation to make it a bit easier for guests to chat it up. You, as host, can introduce a topic to the group once everyone has arrived at your party. Alternatively, you can fill an attractive bowl with slips of paper that have questions that lead to conversations. Leave them on the dinner table or on tables around your party room to encourage guests to pick them up and begin chatting on their own. In either case, your guests will appreciate you for not neglecting the most important part of any party—the conversations.

Choosing Topics

When choosing topics for conversation, you should try to avoid subjects that could potentially cause fights among your guests. The classics that fall into this category are discussions about religion or politics. Even on local levels, there can be controversy such as whether the school budget should be approved or whether neighbors should be allowed to host loud, outside parties late into the night. The purpose of your gathering is to encourage your guests to know each other and get along, not fan the flames of long-standing arguments.

You should also aim to begin conversations about topics which are easy for many people to join in, not with limited subjects that only a few know about. Choose ideas that will get people to laugh, reminisce, or share comfortably, but not so personally that anyone would feel uncomfortable.

With these guidelines in mind, here is a list of topics for starting the conversation at your next event:

  • How are things going at work?
  • What kind of projects are you working on recently?
  • How was your day?
  • What did you do last night?
  • Compliment a guests hairstyle, handbag, or shoes if you are comfortable.
  • For couples, how did you two meet?
  • Do you have a cat?
  • Follow up questions about a cats personality.
  • Do you have a dog?
  • Shared memories of childhood pets or dogs can be triggered from questions about pets and lead into a fun, light conversation and ways to connect.
  • If you could pick any state to live in and you knew your job would be waiting there, which would you choose and why?
  • What was your biggest surprise ever?
  • If you had to give up one of these forever, would you choose television or music from any source?
  • Would you rather be able to fly, be invisible, or read minds, and why?
  • When were you happiest in life and why?
  • Do you have any siblings?
  • Have you been to any great restaurants lately?
  • If you had the opportunity to meet one person you haven’t met who would it be, why and what would you talk about?
  • What age would you want to remain for the duration of your life?
  • Which is your favorite vacation spot—beach, mountain, desert, or city?
  • What would be your ideal sandwich?
  • What is the perfect combination of pizza toppings?
  • What was the worst job you ever held and why?
  • Have you ever done extreme couponing? If so, what was your best deal?
  • What was the greatest invention, ever?
  • If you were to win the mega lottery, what's the first thing you would buy for yourself?