Some women are attracted to “bad boys,” and at times men are attracted to the women who can be bad for them, as well. We may not call them “bad women” but we should. As serious a commitment as marriage is, some people want to ignore the red flags and stay blinded by lust. You need to marry the best match for you. This should be a woman who will always “have your back” and that you can count on in good times and in bad.
Men, with that in mind, here are the four kinds of women that you should definitely not marry:
- The damsel in distress. You love feeling like a superhero. Rescuing that troubled woman is somehow so appealing. You must ask yourself, why is she always having problems? Why is there always something bad happening to her? She has a horrible ex-husband, a low paying job, and her car broke down for the fifth time? You feel pity for her, and this tugs at your heartstrings. She is incapable of pulling herself up by her bootstraps. Just remember, if you rescue a damsel in distress, you end up with nothing more than a distressed damsel. Ask yourself what will happen if you needed to count on her. You should not have to rescue a person time and again. The only thing you should rescue is a pet!
- The psycho. These women are often beautiful. Sometimes supermodel gorgeous and you are pinching yourself that she is dating you! You are easily blinded by her beauty, though. She has anger outbursts, unpredictable moods, one minute wants a hug and the next is biting your head off. She may have an actual personality disorder (borderline? narcissistic?) and zero insight about her behavior. She may even say she has “bad PMS,” but do not buy that excuse! You must dump Ms. Crazy and change your number. Better yet, go into the witness protection program for a few months, as you are likely to be stalked.
- The control freak. She’s domineering and bossy. She makes all the decisions and beats you down when you try to assert yourself. She decides where you go on dates and who you go with. She may be isolating you from your regular friends. You are starting to become her lap dog. You may even begin to wonder if it matters that you exist in the relationship, as you have no voice. Your friends are definitely noticing. They are losing respect for you and see you as spineless. It is time to take back your self-respect and leave this woman!
- The needy one. She is a bottomless well of needs. Clingy, clingy, clingy. You must constantly reassure her of your love, and that everything in the relationship is okay. She wanted to get married from date three and believes you are her “soulmate.” If you call and don’t answer or respond to texts instantly, she is in a panic. Forget about any “boy’s night out.” She will sulk and cry. Your phone will be blowing up all evening. There is no way for you ever to make this person feel secure and you may die trying to.
If you are dating any of these types of women, it is crucial that you consider the impact this person is having on your life. These types can be disastrous for your well-being and happiness. Would you want this woman raising your children? Chances are, your gut is telling you to run, but you are getting something out of the relationship that makes this difficult. You must move on from women like this and find a healthy, balanced partnership for life.
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