Your precious snowflake sometimes turns into a monster you don't recognize. Is it possible you've got a brat in your pack? Check out the top warning signs that you're raising a spoiled child.
1. Your Child Shows Off A LOT
You're proud of your child and her accomplishments. You should be and she should be too.
It's natural for a child to want to brag. What you have to watch out for is excessive bragging.
Bragging to a friend that she got the lead in the ballet recital is okay if she's simply sharing her good news. She should be thankful for what she achieves. But bragging about getting the lead in the ballet recital when her friend, who also tried out, didn't will lead to hurt feelings and lost friends.
We all know children brag about everything from how many toys they have to how long they can hold their breath underwater. The key to reeling in the bragging is to make sure she understands there's a difference between sharing her news and rubbing what she has into other people's faces. Raising a compassionate kid who cares about other people's feelings is just as important as making sure you're not raising a spoiled child.
2. She Continually Interrupts
You're in the middle of a conversation when your child walks up and interrupts. It happens over and over again no matter where you go or who you're talking to.
You can't seem to get a word in when she's around because she feels like you need to stop talking to your spouse, your friends or your other children because she has something to say.
Kids think they're number one and, of course, they are. However, there should still be rules in place that prevent your child from interrupting you when you or someone else is speaking.
She needs to learn how to wait her turn, listen to others and that the only reason to interrupt is if it's an emergency, such as potty time or the house being on fire. Talk to her about the continual interruptions and consider taking away rewards or giving consequences that help reinforce how important it is to not interrupt people.
3. She is Rude to Others
Your adorable angel may not be rude to you but is she being rude to other people? You may be raising a brat if your child talks back to adults or is rude to her friends.
People get aggravated with each other, whether it's the tiniest person or a grown-up. There has to be an invisible line you don't let your child cross, though. Being rude to other children and adults isn't acceptable and it's an issue you need to deal with right away.
4. Your Child Throws Frequent Tantrums
Little kids throw tantrums to get what they want. If those tantrums have turned into an all-too-frequent event, especially if your child should have grown out of this stage by now, look for the cause of the tantrums.
Most of the time, tantrums can be the result of your child not getting her way with the tantrum being a way for her to express herself. When the tantrum becomes a way to control you, you've lost the battle and your child knows it.
Set limits and don't let her use tantrums as a way to get you to give in to her demands.
5. She Manipulates the Situation
Your child doesn't want to go to the fabric store so she makes sure to complain about how she needs to go potty until you leave. You make her go to school despite her protests and an hour later you get a call from the school nurse who says your child has a stomach ache. You've got grocery shopping to do but your child won't stop complaining until you promise her a cookie.
Kids are clever little creatures. They know how to manipulate just about every situation to their advantage. Don't get played! Set boundaries and establish consequences for bad behavior. The quicker you get your rules in place, the less stressful your life will be. Yes, she'll still try to manipulate you but she'll soon learn that certain behaviors have negative results.