10 Ways to Avoid Getting Invited to the Best Parties

Behavior That Will Have Your Friends Running in the Other Direction

Have you ever found yourself sitting at home while everyone else is partying and having fun? That's not a good feeling, but you can do something about getting your name back on the best guest lists in town.

The best party in town can be ruined by one person’s bad behavior. Most people have been to an event where someone in attendance didn't have the best social skills and made others feel awkward. Here is a list of sure-fire ways to stay off the guest list of future parties. Bringing a hostess gift is always nice, but it doesn't eliminate the need for general good manners.

  • 01 of 10

    Arrive too early.

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    If the party invitation states that the party is to begin at 7:00 PM, don’t show up at 6:00 or even 6:30. Most hosts are still setting up and getting ready for guests until a few minutes before the party is supposed to start. Get there within five minutes of the designated time if it’s a dinner party. If it’s a cocktail party, you may show up ten or fifteen minutes after it starts.

  • 02 of 10

    Arrive too late.

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    Don’t disappoint the host and show up when the party is almost over. Party planning takes quite a bit of time, energy, and money, so if you say you’ll be there, arrive within a half hour of the start time. He or she may also have wanted to introduce you to others. If something happens, such as car trouble or sickness, call the host immediately and apologize.

  • 03 of 10

    Dress inappropriately.

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    Be mindful of the party dress code. If the invitation states semiformal, don’t show up in jeans and a T-shirt. Be respectful of the host or hostess’ request for attire. Always dress in modest apparel if this is an office party, or you’ll send the wrong message to your coworkers.

  • 04 of 10

    Be antisocial.

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    Smile and be friendly. This is a party, so you’re supposed to have fun. Not bothering to try to be friendly casts a shadow over everyone’s good time. Even if you don’t care for the food, the other guests, or the activities, pretend until it’s time to leave. It’s not that hard. All you have to do is remember that this is one night out of your life, and you can deal with it.

    Introduce people. If someone walks up while you are chatting with another person, don’t assume they know each other. Introduce them and help start a conversation of interest to both of them. Not doing so is rude and makes for a very uncomfortable situation.

    Be polite to everyone, even those you don’t care for. Never ask a question that is none of your business, such as how much money they make, how much they weigh, or how much they paid for their car. That is just rude.

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  • 05 of 10

    Drink too much.

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    If you choose to drink alcohol, know when to quit and then do it. Most people who drink too much drop their inhibitions, which can get very awkward. In spite of what you may have heard, you are still responsible for what you say and do, even when you are drunk. If a small amount of alcohol gets you spinning, have a glass of ginger ale instead. No one has to know.

  • 06 of 10

    Badmouth others.

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    Keep your conversation positive. No one likes a gossip, and even if you have a crowd around you, hanging on your every word and laughing, you can count on anything you say getting back to the person you are talking about.

  • 07 of 10

    Discuss controversial topics.

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    Unless you are at a church function, political rally, or union meeting, don’t discuss religion, politics, or salary. People are passionate about these topics, and you don’t want to embarrass your host by getting into a scuffle with someone who doesn’t agree with you. If the topic comes up, try to tactfully change it. One way to do this is mention the weather. Most people will get the hint and move on to another topic. Learn to make small talk.

  • 08 of 10

    Flirt with the wrong person.

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    Be cautious about the people you flirt with. If you are married, you need to be respectful of your spouse and avoid anything that seems inappropriate. If you are single and on the prowl, stay away from other people’s partners. Make sure anyone you flirt with is single and open to your advances. As soon as someone appears uncomfortable, back off, or you might find yourself in a peck of trouble.

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  • 09 of 10

    Disrespect other people's personal space.

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    Everyone has a comfort level when it comes to how close people will let you get to them. If you see someone squirm when you talk to him or her, back off. You’ll know when you’ve invaded someone’s personal space.

    You should also avoid asking questions that are too personal. This includes anything related to salary, cost of housing or outfit, and a person's ex. If someone else asks you rude questions, change the subject.

  • 10 of 10

    Be the last to leave.

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    As soon as you see several guests getting their coats, thank the host and hostess and make your exit. Unless you have agreed to stick around and help clean up, being the last to leave can be very uncomfortable.