Top 12 Ways to Create More Intimacy Today

Intimacy in your marriage involves more than having good sex. Intimacy is achieved when the two of you can share your thoughts, opinions, and feelings with one another. 

Your marital intimacy is also strengthened when you two are spending time as a couple, having fun together, and surprising one another.

So do it! Do something today so you and your spouse can be more intimate, close and connected!

  • 01 of 12

    Let Your Spouse Know Who You Are

    Couple embrace at sunrise
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    A great way to create intimacy in yourmarriage is to let your spouse know who you are by sharing your hopes, dreams, wishes, and needs.

  • 02 of 12

    Leave a Romantic Note for Your Spouse

    An older couple walking near a lake
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    Although what you say in the love note is important, where you leave the love note is important, too! A written note, as opposed to a text, will be viewed as quite romantic!

  • 03 of 12

    Give a Small Gift ... Just Because You Love Your Spouse

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    Photo: Barry Austin / Getty Images

    Receiving or giving an unexpected gift is a true delight. The hardest part is coming up with a unique idea for a gift when you have been together a long time. Try Pinterest, Etsy, Uncommon Goods and for some great ideas.

  • 04 of 12

    Take a Walk Together

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    Photo: Sparrow Photography / Getty Images

    Surprise your spouse with a long, romantic kiss and a suggestion to take a walk together.

    Make sure you hold hands while you walk. Think about taking that walk in the moonlight on a pleasant evening or in a spring rain. If you are near the beach...even better!

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  • 05 of 12

    Watch a Romantic Movie

    It Had to Be You DVD - Lions Gate
    It Had to Be You - Lions Gate

    Snuggle together on the couch with some popcorn and enjoy a romantic movie together. Watching a move can trigger some deep and meaningful dialogue between the two of you. Find out why a movie may be the best date night ever.

  • 06 of 12

    Have a Picnic

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    Restaurants are fun, but why not a meal together that's different? When was the last time you had a picnic?

    Put a blanket on the floor in your bedroom and enjoy an intimate picnic with one another. Or go to a pretty park for the picnic. You can also try a Silly Supper instead of a picnic.

  • 07 of 12

    Get Frisky

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    Photo: Lambada / iStockphoto

    Make out in the backseat of your car or rent a motel room close by your home. One night stands together are great! In case you need a reason to have sex, here's a complete list of all the many health and physical benefits of sex in a committed relationship.

  • 08 of 12

    Have a Lunch Date

    Photo © Larry Stritof
    Photo © Larry Stritof

    Make some couple time for one another by scheduling a lunch date. Get some relief from your busy or stressful day at work with a quick lunch with your love. 

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  • 09 of 12

    Have Fun Together

    Having Fun Together
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    Whether it is going on a spontaneous trip, dancing, hiking, walking on a beach, washing your car, going antiquing, seeing a show, reading a book together, hosting a party for friends, and so on -- having fun together is critical for the success of your marriage. 

  • 10 of 12

    Deepen Your Relationship

    Goal Setting
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    Making time to deepen your relationship with one another is a wonderful way to create intimacy in your lives. Try some of these activities. Also let your spouse know how important your marriage is to you by being open to setting goals together. Develop relationship rituals as they keep your marriage strong. 

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    Sign Up For a Workshop, Class or Seminar Together

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    You can sign up for a workshop that is designed to improve your intimacy and connection, or, you can take a course in something you are both interested in learning about.  Thing about how fun it would be to learn a new hobby and practice it together. For example, cooking, photography, horseback riding, golf, etc. 

  • 12 of 12

    Say "I Love You"

    Love You Cup
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    Sure, you say "I love you" to your spouse in words - but there are other meaningful ways to say "I love you."

    You may also want to read: The One Thing Couples Should Talk About Everyday

    *Article updated by Marni Feuerman