Have you ever felt like you, as a working mom, just couldn’t do it anymore? The job, the kids, the house - it’s all just too much. This dual workload is exhausting to manage. If so, you are not alone. Here are some tips to help you cope when you just can’t.
Believe In the Power of Deep Breathing
The next time you feel like you’re at your wits-end practice breathing deeply. Really fill up your belly and lungs with as much air as possible and then forcefully blow it out.
Do this about three to five times.
What happens when you do this? This simple exercise sends you to a different place mentally. It creates this really cool space between your reality and what’s going on in your mind. It’s the welcomed break you need if just for a moment, that helps you get your bearings and regroup. The more you practice it the more you’ll believe in its power to help you thrive as a working mom.
Perform a Body Scan
When you start to experience that feeling that you just can’t do working motherhood anymore, sit down. Next, close your eyes to block out the world. Start by focusing your attention on your head, does it hurt? Then focus on your shoulders, could they use a massage. Keep moving down your body to see how you could improve it. Open your eyes when you’re done with the scan.
What can you do to alleviate any pain, stress, or discomfort that your body is experiencing?
This will turn into your self-care plan for the day. In the long run, taking care of your body will help you take care of everything else in your life.
Discover the Root Cause
What is bothering you, exactly? When you hit your breaking point it means that one thing set things off that caused many other bad things to happen.
Or at least you perceive or notice all the bad and it’s hard to acknowledge any positive things. To help you address the root cause answer the following questions, but please note! Before you dive into this self-discovery, give take a break by practicing deep breathing and performing a body scan.
- What is it that you just can't do anymore is at work or at home?
- What was it about specifically that day at work that made you feel like giving up?
- Why was that one particular situation difficult for you?
Once you find the root cause keep asking “Why did that bother me?” to make sure that that problem is indeed the root cause. Then address the problem and create an action plan to help you deal with it.
Lean On Your Support System
This situation is one of the many reasons why you want to have a support system in place. Use them to help you overcome your root cause because you don’t have to “do it all” yourself. After this brainstorm, you’ll know what you need help with, when, where, and especially why so that you can get the relief that you need to keep going.
Do What You Want to Do
When you reach that point that you just can’t do it anymore what is it that you prefer to be doing? As long as it’s not jumping on a plane to a tropical island, do it.
Do you want to just lay down and have a cup of tea or a glass of wine? Then fulfill that desire.
Sure your family may look at you strange, but it’s also a signal that you need to turn off for a while. By putting yourself first you’ll show your family that it’s OK to listen to your body and just stop. Being “on” and pushing through it is unrealistic because eventually, you will feel like you just can’t. The reality is that mama needs a break.
Time to Re-Prioritize
How organized are your priorities? Do you do whatever task presents its self? Or do you plan out daily priorities in the order of importance?
If you aren’t following a plan it’s easy to fall prey to satisfying other people’s needs instead of your own. Burnout is sure to happen if this is the case! It’s time to re-prioritize.
What are the important things that you need to do this month, week, today?
Use your calendar to plan this out. Organize these tasks into self-care, family care, house management, and work. Include even the mundane things like laundry, dishes, etc because they do use up your time.
Next, which of these tasks must be done by you? What could you delegate to your support system? What tasks would give you much satisfaction once completed? By following these guidelines you’ll start living your life according to your values and priorities. You’ll feel more in control which will ease the feeling of chaos and overwhelm. Whoot!
Now that you’re armed with this advice hopefully you feel you can thrive as a working mom. You’ll have good days and bad ones, but hopefully, this advice will help you keep going. You can do it, working mama!