Weddings are events that linger in people's minds long after they are over. They're heavily photographed, video recorded, and talked about for years. Some brides and grooms involve the entire wedding party in a dance production that involves hours and hours of practice, but there is nothing wrong with a more traditional approach to the wedding dance.
Commonly Asked Question About the Wedding Dance
Question: What is proper wedding dance etiquette?
Answer: There is more than one answer to this question: the traditional dance and what's currently in style. Traditionally, there's a proper order for brides and grooms to dance with each other. Dances at more contemporary weddings are totally up to the bride and groom.
Traditional Wedding Dance Order
Although there's a specific order for the traditional wedding dance, any part of it may be changed according to needs and tastes of the couple. Make sure the entire wedding party understands their part.
- After the introduction of the bride, groom, and the rest of the wedding party, the bride and groom share the first dance.
- For the next dance, the father of the bride dances with the bride, and the groom dances with the bride’s mother. After that, the bride’s father dances with her mother, and the groom asks his mother to dance, and then the groom’s parents dance with each other.
- Each of the groomsmen, starting with the best man, may dance with the bride, and the groom may dance with the bridesmaids. These can be for entire or partial songs, depending on the length of the reception.
Remember that all of these traditions are editable. There may be variables that prevent tradition, such as a disabled or deceased parent. Remember that the main goal of dancing at weddings is for the guests to have fun celebrating the new couple.
Fun and Contemporary Wedding Dance Trends
Couples are getting more creative with their wedding dances, and you're likely to see a variety of moves on the dance floor. Some of them post to social media and YouTube, so you can do a search to see what others are doing.
Any of these trends may be copied or used for inspiration:
- A choreographed bride and groom ballroom dance that is clearly well rehearsed. This typically takes hours of dance lessons and preparation.
- A surprise bride and groom dance that has been choreographed to shake up the reception. This typically starts out slow and romantic. Then the music stops, the bride and groom look at each other in mock surprise, and then they bust out some moves that have the guests doubled over laughing.
- Wedding party dance that looks like a stage production. What better way to bond with your bridesmaids and groomsmen than spending your evenings leading up to the big day in a dance studio?
General Wedding Dance Tips
- For the first dance, choose a song that you love and one that speaks to the relationship between the bride and groom.
- Practice dancing to the song before the wedding. If either of you has little or no experience on the dance floor, take a lesson from a professional. A few ballroom dance lessons can make a big difference between feeling clumsy and having confidence to dance in front of others.
- If your wedding dress is long or has a train, bustle it so you don't trip over it.
- Wear shoes that are comfortable for dancing. If you aren't used to high heels, wear lower heels or flats.
Timeline After the Traditional Wedding Party Dances
After the bridal couple dances, and all of the traditional dances are satisfied, many couples choose their song list for dancing based on who will be attending and their sensibilities. Although the wedding and reception should be focused on the bride and groom, it is always good form to show respect for the people who have taken time out of their busy lives to share the experience.
Choose a song list that suits your tastes and the sensibilities of the guests:
- You may not want to subject some of the attendees to hardcore hip-hop music, so start out with music that is milder in content. If your great-aunt and grandparents are there, they will appreciate some music from their era.
- In a subtle way, you can let the guests know that the music will change as the afternoon or evening wears on, so they can enjoy the earlier part of the night and leave when they sense the transition to something that might make them uncomfortable.
- Include the parents of the bride and groom in song selection. You don't need to let them choose every song, but giving them some choice shows that you respect and care enough to make them happy.