What NOT To Have in Your Bedroom

Do you know which items are bad feng shui for your bedroom?

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Be mindful about the feng shui energy of your bedroom art. Avoid sad, depressing, lonely or violent images, as every item in your bedroom influences your personal energy and the quality of your love relationships. Jamie Grill/Getty Images

I remember watching a good TV show on home design that left me feeling quite upset. That particular segment was on re-designing a bedroom which had a big and quite emotional painting of a lonely woman drowning in a large pool of water. The painting had a strong energy of sorrow and a desperate need to be alone.

The beauty is always in the eyes of the beholder, so there is no point in expressing my opinion about the aesthetical value of that painting. What I can say for sure, though, is that the mentioned art, or any images with similar energy, do not belong in the bedroom.

It felt almost surreal watching the designer re-decorate the whole bedroom around this sad painting, instead of taking a moment to sense that this is a very inappropriate image for a couple's bedroom. The other design element from the same TV segment that should never be in the bedroom is a mirror facing the bed.

Even though the mirror was stunning -- nice and tall, with an elegant gold leaf frame -- a mirror facing a bed should not be placed in the bedroom. In this particular case, it was also overwhelmingly close to one side of the bed and sure "working hard" against couple's harmony and sexual healing.

I am not disclosing the designer's name, nor do I know the name of the client. This gives me permission to make a highly probable feng shui statement that the couple who sleeps in that bedroom either is, or soon will be, going through considerable emotional difficulties in their relationship. Actually, the most accurate statement is that they were in a difficult place already when filming the show.

How do I know it? It's the feng shui energy communicating in ways that we can all learn to listen to and understand.

How can you avoid the many feng shui mistakes that can potentially bring low or negative energy into your bedroom? Start with the basics, and be sure you understand the reason behind any feng shui bedroom recommendations.

Define the quality of energy you want in your bedroom and see if what is actually happening there is aligned with your desire. If you dream of an open, honest communication in a passionate love relationship, but your closets are stuffed to the brim and your bed has access from only one side, I can assure you there are changes to be made in your bedroom until you reach that dream.

Feng shui teaches you to look at everything with fresh, new eyes and understand the language of every item in your space. It is not as difficult as it sounds, you just have to listen.

Here are some good resources for you to start creating good feng shui in your space:

Look at every item in your bedroom and see if it helps you create a nourishing, sensual and healing energy. Some items are really easy to "read" - for example, your computer, your treadmill or any office or work-related items definitely do not belong in the bedroom.

Some are harder to define and it is only up to you to see if you are better off without them in your bedroom. Will your bedroom feel better without those gifts that you actually cannot stand or without the pictures of ALL your family and friends? Your bedroom, your decision.