When to Give Jewelry in a Relationship

Depending on how serious or lax your relationship is, fine jewelry could either solidify the relationship or send your partner packing. Unless you've had many talks about commitment, springing an engagement ring within the first six months of dating probably isn't a good idea. 

Fine jewelry is timeless and long-lasting, so it's a perfect token to mark special moments in your life. However, it's important to remember when it's appropriate to give fine jewelry and how much you should spend in proportion to your level of commitment and your finances. 

Find out common jewelry gift occasions that may pop up throughout the course of your relationship. 

  • 01 of 07

    Valentine's Day

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    If Valentine's Day pops up within the first six months of your relationship, it may be best to stick to a beautiful piece of costume jewelry. 

    On Valentine's Days that fall after the first year, great jewelry ideas include a gold or silver locket, a pair of diamond studs, or a simple gemstone necklace. 

  • 02 of 07


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    Birthday's are the perfect time to give birthstone jewelry. If your partner's birthday falls within the first year of dating, it is smart to save money by purchasing a synthetic stone. 

  • 03 of 07


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    Every relationship is different, so the timeframe for giving an engagement ring is different. Have some level of mutual commitment in your relationship before shopping for an engagement ring. This doesn't have to be in the form of a direct conversation, but rather just a confidence that your partner is as willing to settle down as you are. 

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    Wedding Day

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    To some, it's customary for the bride and groom to exchange small gifts on the day of their wedding. Usually, they haven't seen each other leading up the wedding, and one of the bridesmaids and groomsmen exchanges the gifts. It doesn't have to be anything outrageous since a lot of money was spent on an engagement ring and wedding bands, but a locket or small necklace make great options.

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    Anniversaries come in two forms: pre-wedding and post-wedding. If you're a couple that is committed but has no plans for marriage, use your anniversary as an opportunity to give a fine jewelry gift with some longevity. A thick band or ring with their favorite color are great options. Rings for occasions are very personal and a piece of jewelry the wearer can always enjoy.

    If you're hitched, there's a traditional list of anniversary gifts for every year you've been married. You could opt to get your spouse a piece of wood on your fifth wedding anniversary, but this is also a great time to give a piece of jewelry in his or her taste that will last a lifetime. 

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    New Baby

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    These gifts have become known as the push present, and it's surprising how many men still don't know about them. If this is baby number four, maybe a push present isn't necessary. On baby number one, though? A piece of jewelry after giving birth is a great way to show how much she and the baby mean to you. Giving the new mom a piece of jewelry in the baby's birthstone is a popular option, and it's something the mother can pass down to the baby when he or she gets older. 

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    Fine jewelry is very sentimental. Even though it's mostly geared toward women, everyone has a specific taste for jewelry. Fine jewelry is one of the most durable and lasting gifts you can give. Just be sure to take the following into account:

    • If you aren't mutually committed, buy appropriate jewelry that isn't too expensive.
    • Make sure each piece of jewelry has a sentimental value behind it, not just financial value.
    • Pay attention to your partner's taste in jewelry.
    • Don't spend more than you can afford.
    • Don't use jewelry as a means to apologize or try to get something in return (most people don't like being bought).