Who to Thank After Your Wedding

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Most brides and grooms know to send thank you cards to people for wedding gifts, but there are others you should acknowledge as well. A lot of people were probably involved in making this day special, so take some extra time to thank anyone who participated.

Who Should Receive Thank You Notes

In general, everyone who was in any way involved in making your wedding a success should be thanked with a personalized, handwritten letter of thanks. Here are some of the people you need to remember:

  • Your parents. Don’t forget to send a note of thanks to both sets of parents, and should your family include a stepparent who participated, he or she should receive a note too. 
  • Your bridesmaids and groomsmen. Those who stood or will stand with you on your big day certainly deserve a note of thanks as well as a token gift that expresses your gratitude. Include a photo of him or her with you and your spouse as an extra personal touch.
  • The officiant. Your minister or officiant has probably spent many hours with you and your spouse in counseling and preparation. Although this is often a paid service, you will also want to send a note of thanks showing your appreciation.
  • The wedding planner. So many brides and grooms would have been lost on their wedding day without the help of an event or wedding planner. Make sure he or she is thanked appropriately with a sincere and handwritten note; it is much deserved.
  • Guests. It is not necessary to send a note of thanks to each person who attended your wedding, but you will want to send a thank-you note to those who gave a gift. Make sure to handwrite your note on nice stationery and mail it to the recipient.

Group Gifts

Dear Friends,

How kind of you to grace us with the gift of beautiful china dinnerware. We were so grateful to have full place settings for eight. We hope our home will be a welcoming place to invite our friends often. We look forward to having each of you for dinner in the future. Your gift will definitely be a part of many of our memory-making moments.

Sincerely, Mr. and Mrs. Bernard Tyler

Monetary Gifts

Dear Uncle and Aunt Warbucks,

Thank you for showing such generosity during our wedding. Just as you chose to make an investment in our future, Melvin and I chose to make several investments with the funds we received from you. We look forward to seeing you again soon and thank you so much for traveling so far to be with us on our special day. We appreciate you both very much.

With Love, Marlene and Dan

When to Send Them

Every gift should be acknowledged with a thank you note as soon as possible. Most of the people who sent or brought gifts don't expect a note the day or week after the wedding. However, as soon as you return from your honeymoon, you and your new spouse should get busy writing notes to show your appreciation.

Remember that even the gifts you didn’t quite like deserve thanks. Don’t forget that gifts received before the wedding may be recognized immediately; you don’t have to wait until after the ceremony. Sending the notes early can take quite a bit of pressure off later. Be sure to get your letter or card in the mail as soon as you return from your honeymoon.

Some experts advise sending the note within a month of the wedding, but others say it's okay to take a few months. It's best to go ahead and send the thank you note as soon as you return from your honeymoon to prevent the added stress and guilt as time passes.