When it comes to frequency of sex, the old adage of "just do it" is backed up by science. More and more studies show increased emotional and physical benefits from frequent safe sex. Did you know that sex can ease your headache?
According to therapist, Michele Weiner-Davis in her book, The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido, a Couple's Guide, "At first, many were understandably cautious about my Nike-style approach to their sex life; the 'Just Do It' advice ran counter to everything they had believed about how sexual desire unfolds ...
I could often see the relief on people's faces when they learned that their lack of out-of-the-blue sexual urges didn't necessarily signify a problem. It didn't mean there was something wrong with them or that something was missing from their marriages. It just meant that they experienced desire differently."
With this in mind, it's good news to know that sex not only makes you feel good and improve intimacy with your partner, but, that it is actually good for your health. This idea also has a reciprocal effect. Having more sex makes you healthier and being healthier makes you desire sex more. It's all around good news! But if you are still not convinced, let's look at what science has given us so far about the benefits of sex.
Emotional Benefits of Having Sex:
- Increases level of commitment
- Boosts self-esteem
- Makes a person feel younger
- Lowers the level of cortisol, a hormone that can trigger fatigue and cravings
- Lowers feelings of insecurity
- Keeps spouses connected emotionally
- Helps to give people a more positive attitude
- Makes a person more calm
- Makes a person less irritable
- Reduces depression
- Relieves stress
Physical Benefits of Having Sex:
- Reduces risk physical illness
- Improves immunity
- Reduces pain by increasing endorphins
- It's a form of exercise (it can help people achieve weight loss since about 200 calories are burned during 30 minutes of active sex
- Less-frequent colds and flu
- Vaginal tissue lubrication
- Lower mortality rates
- Reduced risk of prostate cancer
- Offers pain relief, including pain from migraines and back pain
- Improves posture
- Gives a youthful glow
- Reduced risk of heart disease
- Helps prevent yeast infections
- Lightens menstrual periods and cramps
- Firms stomach and buttocks
- Lowers blood pressure
- Helps people sleep better
- Improves digestion
- Improved sense of smell
- A therapeutic effect on immune system
- Better bladder control
- Healthier teeth
- Increase DHEA makes your skin healthier
- Improves fitness level
- Increases circulation
- Improves memory
- Produces chemicals in the brain to stimulate the growth of new dendrites
- Improves pelvic muscle tone
- Boosts libido
Dr. Pamela Rogers in a Healthline.com article, "Sexual experience and satisfaction are closely correlated with overall quality of life. They increase your sense of well-being and personal satisfaction. Sexual activity is negatively correlated with the risk and incidence of psychiatric illness, depression, and suicide. Sexual activity and orgasm reduce stress. Sexual satisfaction is also associated with the stability of relationships.
Consistent mutual sexual pleasure increases bonding within a relationship. It has also been demonstrated that coupled partners have increased relationship satisfaction when they fulfill one another's sexual desires."
There has been a plethora of scientific research that has proven the above benefits. Ideally, have a regular trusted sex partner is a major part of getting these benefits. In a safe and secure long-term relationship (such as marriage, but not necessarily), you are likely to reap these benefits the most.
So, what are you doing reading this? Grab your honey and get to work!
Need some ideas to spice up your sex life? Purchase from Amazon: 101 Nights of Great Sex by Laura Corn or Sex and Marriage: How to Guide for Sex and Passion and Desire for Married Couples by Rochelle Fox
*Article updated by Marni Feuerman
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