Preparing Your Flower Girl

Bride handing bouquet to flower girl
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A flower girl is usually a young girl between the ages of 4 and 8 who has a special connection to the bride and groom. Perhaps she is a niece or cousin, or a family friend. She follows behind the bridesmaids (sometimes before and sometimes after the maid of honor) with a basket of flowers, scattering them down the aisle.

Choosing a Flower Girl

For some of you, the choice will be obvious. Others may have to worry about choosing between several possible candidates. There's no reason why you can't have two or even three flower girls – it will add to their confidence and ups the cuteness quotient. Avoid choosing someone who is too young – she will be confused and perhaps scared. An older girl may be more suited for a job such as a reader, or junior bridesmaid. If your only choices are unsuitable or not that close to you, there is no reason why you have to have a flower girl.

Preparing Your Flower Girl for Her Role

One of the best ways to do this is to buy her a book about being a flower girl which will explain her role and get her excited. Seat her parents on the aisle, near the front so that she can see them when she walks down the aisle and during the ceremony itself. Ask a bridesmaid to be her "buddy" and make sure she uses the restroom before the ceremony. Most of all, don't be too nervous that she will make a mistake. If she dumps all her petals at the start of the aisle, runs instead of walks, or even starts to cry, guests will think it's cute.

Flower Girl Attire

Often, a flower girl is dressed in a mini-version of the bride's dress or a white dress with a sash that matches the bridesmaids' dresses. But you can choose any sweet dress that ties into the look of the wedding. Make sure it's comfortable and not too long so that she won't be pulling at her dress or tripping down the aisle. If your flower girl doesn't like dresses, choose a pants outfit with the same level of formality as the bridesmaid dresses.

Where to Find a Flower Girl Dress

You can find flower girl dresses at bridal shops, children's clothing stores, and department stores. Since the parents typically pay for their daughter's dress, try to choose something relatively inexpensive. Some of our favorites include Us Angels, J. Crew, and Elizabeth St. John.